Kungani abantu bethola izinja?

Akunakwenzeka ukuthi kuyoke kwenzeke ukubala ukuthi zingaki izinja emhlabeni wonke ezihlala emindenini njengezilwane ezifuywayo. Nokho, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi inani lezinja likhula kancane kancane unyaka nonyaka. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukugcinwa kwezilwane kuhlotshaniswa nezinkinga eziningi. Kungani abantu bethola izinja?

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Inja njengengxenye yesistimu yomndeni

Ku-psychology, kunendlela ebizwa ngokuthi “systemic family therapy”. Abalandeli balesi siqondiso babheka umndeni njengesimiso, ilungu ngalinye eliyingxenye yalo, lenza imisebenzi ethile yokuxazulula izinkinga ezibalulekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uhlelo ngalunye lomndeni luxazulula izinkinga ezimbili:

1. Ukuthuthukiswa.
2. Ukulondoloza ukuzinza (homeostasis).

Uma enye yezinto zohlelo ishintsha, lonke uhlelo luyashintsha. Futhi lokhu akunakugwenywa, ngoba zonke izakhi zesistimu (amalungu omndeni) zihlala zixhumana nomunye nomunye kanye nezwe langaphandle, ngisho noma zingaqapheli ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Ziyini izinja, uyabuza? Iqiniso liwukuthi izinja nazo ziyizici ezigcwele zesistimu yomndeni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sithanda noma cha.

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Iyiphi indima edlalwa yinja emndenini?

U-Anna Varga, i-Systemic Family Therapist, uhlonza imisebenzi emi-3 izinja ezingayenza ohlelweni lomndeni:

1. Ukufakwa esikhundleni. Ngokwesibonelo, izingane ziyakhula, futhi abazali bathatha umdlwane ukuze bawunakekele ndawonye.
2. Ukuhlukaniswa kwentsha. Ngezinye izikhathi inja isiza osemusha ukuba "avikele" ukuzimela, kwakhiwa ubuhlobo obukhethekile nayo, okungaba isibonelo somndeni wayo wesikhathi esizayo.
3. Umbambiqhaza "kanxantathu" (unxantathu). Isibonelo, uma ukungezwani kukhula phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, bathola inja ukuthi ibe "nokuxhumana" kanye/noma izihloko eziphephe kakhulu ukukhuluma ngazo, kanye nokusungula ibanga elamukelekayo, elinciphisa izinga lokungezwani phakathi. umndeni.

Yingakho ukubonakala kwenja emndenini akuyona ngengozi. Ngokuvamile umdlwane noma inja endala ibonakala ngesikhathi lapho umndeni usenkingeni futhi kudingeka ukuzinza. Futhi ukuze uqonde ukuthi iyiphi indima inja edlalayo emndenini, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi yini eyandulela ukubonakala kwayo.

Yebo, abanye abantu bangadlala zonke lezi zindima. Isibonelo, izingane zivame ukudonswa "konxantathu". Kodwa abantu baseyizidalwa okunzima ukuzilawula. Inja iyisidalwa ukuphila kwaso kulawulwa ngokuphelele umnikazi.

Indima yenja emndenini ingase ishintshe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi - kuncike esigabeni sokuthuthukiswa komndeni kanye nobuhlobo phakathi kwamalungu ayo.