Yini enquma uthando lwekati kumnikazi?

Abanikazi abaningi abangabazi ukuthi amakati ayawathanda. Kodwa ingabe uthando lwekati kumuntu lungokwemvelo kuye, luzalwa nalo, noma ingabe “luyisithelo semfundo”? Spoiler: kokubili.

UDkt. Shannon Stanek, i-DVM, uthi, njengabantu, uthando lwekati ngomuntu (kanye nezinga elivezwa ngalo) luncike ebuntwini bekati, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwalo kwangaphambili.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokwalo chwepheshe, izici zokuzalwa kanye nesipiliyoni kubaluleke ngokufanayo. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu yizinyanga zokuqala zokuphila. Amakati akhule esondelene nabantu avame ukuba nothando nothando. Ngakho-ke, amakati alahlekile ayingozi kakhulu, njengoba ayengenakho okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kokuxhumana nabantu. Kodwa-ke, isimo sengqondo esinomusa somnikazi, owathatha ikati emgwaqeni, singabushelela kancane isimo, futhi isilwane sizofunda ukujabulela ukuxhumana nomuntu.

Isazi sokuziphatha kwekati uMieshelle Nagelschneider ukholelwa ukuthi izinga lothando lwekati kubantu lithonywa izici eziningi. Futhi ngisho nekati elinesikhathi esidlule esingesihle lingaba isilwane esifuywayo esinothando nesithandwa kakhulu emhlabeni. Futhi ikati elikhuliswe ezimweni ezikahle lingase lingathandwa futhi licasuke.

Yiziphi izici ezithonya uthando lwekati ngomnikazi walo?

1. Ukuphatha kusenesikhathi (cha, lokhu akuphathelene nemibukiso). Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlalisana kokuqala kwekati, okuphela lapho eneminyaka engu-7 amasonto. Kubalulekile ukuthi umfuyi anikeze umntwana ulwazi oluhle lokuxhumana nomuntu futhi amfundise imidlalo efanele.
2. Imizamo yokuthola ukwethenjwa yikati. Kuyadingeka ukuhlonipha indawo yomuntu siqu yekati kanye nelungelo layo lobumfihlo.
3. Ukwakha izinhlangano ezinhle. Uma ikati liqonda ukuthi ubukhona bakho buhlotshaniswa nezinto ezinhle, ukuthi umphatha ngokunakekela, umphathe ngokuphatha okumnandi, ukudlala, kuyasiza ukusungula ubuhlobo obuzosinda kokubili ukuvakashelwa kudokotela wezilwane kanye nezinqubo ezingathandeki njengokuxubha noma ukugeza. Kubaluleke nakakhulu ukuthi ungalokothi uphoqe ikati ukuthi lihlanganyele uma lingafuni.
4. Ukunaka inhlalakahle yekati. Uma ukuziphatha kwekati lakho kushintsha ngokuzumayo, njengokugwema ukuthintana, ukungalandwa, noma ukuba nolaka, kungase kube ngenxa yempilo ebuthaka. Kulokhu, kufanele uqale uxhumane nodokotela wakho wezilwane.

Ingabe ikati lingaba nothando ngokwengeziwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi?

UMieshelle Nagelschneider, osekuphele iminyaka engu-20 eluleka abanikazi balezi zilwane, uqinisekile ukuthi leli kati lingashintsha. Uma unikeza isilwane sakho isikhathi nesineke, uzobona ukuthuthuka okuphawulekayo esimweni sengqondo sesilwane esifuywayo ngawe. Ngisho noma ikati lakho lalilahlekile ngaphambili.

Kukhona njalo indawo yokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bakho nekati lakho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi lezi zilwane zibonisa uthando lwazo ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ikati elilodwa lizokubonisa ngokuphumula eduze kwakho, kanti elinye lizokulethela ibhola ozoliphonsa. Futhi uma ikati lizizwa likhululekile futhi liphephile eduze kwakho, ngokuqinisekile uzobonisa isimo sakhe sengqondo esihle.

Ingabe isimo sengqondo ngomnikazi sincike ohlotsheni lwekati?

I-Genetics inquma kakhulu ubuntu bekati, ngakho abameleli bezinhlobo ezahlukene banezinhlamvu ezihlukene. Kukholelwa ukuthi amakati anobungane kakhulu futhi anothando yiBurma neRagdoll.

Nokho, awukwazi ukuphonsa phezu kwamanzi kanye nesipiliyoni sempilo yekati, ngoba okuningi nakho kuncike kukho. Isibonelo, amakati alahlekile noma izilwane ezilimele azibethembi abantu (futhi ziyaqondakala).

Kodwa-ke, ithonya lokwehluka kohlobo ebunganeni bekati, ngokusho kukaMieshelle Nagelschneider, akuyona isayensi eqondile. Futhi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi hlobo luni lohlobo (noma "i-mongrel") ikati lakho, kufanele uliphathe ngothando nangenhlonipho. Futhi izinguquko ezizoba ngcono ebudlelwaneni bakho ngeke zikugcine ulindile.