Ikuphi ukuziphatha okuvamile kwenja?

Ngokuvamile abanikazi bakhononda ngokuziphatha "okubi" kwenja, ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuthi yikuphi ukuziphatha "okubi" - okujwayelekile kwenja. Futhi kungaba kuhle ukukuqonda lokhu ngisho nangaphambi kokuba uthole umngane onemilenze emine. Kodwa akukephuzi kakhulu ukufunda. Ngakho-ke, yikuphi ukuziphatha okujwayelekile kwenja?

Kunezici zokuziphatha “ezilawulwayo” ngokwezakhi zofuzo futhi eziqondile kolunye uhlobo lwezidalwa eziphilayo. Okusho ukuthi, inja iziphatha njengenja, hhayi njengekati noma i-parrot. Futhi lokhu kufanele kubhekwe.

Ukuziphatha kwenja okuvamile abanikazi abakubheka “njengekubi”:

• Ekhonkotha.
• Ukuhlolwa kwendawo entsha.
• ukuhogela.
• Ukudla “izinto ezimbi” emgwaqeni.
• Ukuzizwa ekwindla.
• Ukugxumela kumuntu.
• Ukongiwa kwezinsiza.
• Ukuzingela izilwane ezincane.
• Ukuphishekela izinto ezihambayo.
• Ukuvikelwa kwendawo.
• Futhi okuningi okuningi.

Lokhu kuziphatha kungabonakaliswa ngezinga elikhulu noma elincane futhi kuncike kokubili kuhlobo kanye nezimfanelo zomuntu ngamunye zenja, kanye nemfundo.

Konke lokhu, nokho, akusho ukuthi udinga ukuhoxa futhi ulahle ithemba. Uma ukuziphatha okunjalo kwenzeka ngokweqisa noma ngesikhathi esingalungile, sikhuluma ngokuziphatha okungafuneki kwezinhlobo zezilwane. Okungukuthi, lokhu kuziphatha akuyeki ukuba ngokwemvelo, kodwa ezimweni ezithile kuba yinto engakhululekile noma engamukeleki. Yebo, akukuhle kakhulu uma inja ijaha izimoto emgwaqeni omkhulu, ikhonkotha ubusuku nemini noma ihlasela abadlulayo.

Yingakho kubalulekile okokuqala ukukukhethela uhlobo olufanele lwenja. Phela, lokhu noma lolo hlobo lwafuywa ngenjongo ethile, okusho ukuthi izimfanelo ezithile zalungiswa isikhathi eside. Awukwazi ukuchoboza izakhi zofuzo ngomunwe wakho.

Enye indlela "yokulwa" nokuziphatha kwezinhlobo ezingafuneki ukufundisa inja yakho ukuziphatha okufanele. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, kuyadingeka ukudala izimo zokuphila ezijwayelekile zesilwane esifuywayo - esivamile kuye, kucatshangelwa izici zakhe, kokubili inzalo kanye nomuntu ngamunye.

Kodwa-ke, khumbula ukuthi awukwazi "ukususa" ezinye izinhlobo zokuziphatha okujwayelekile kwezinhlobo zezilwane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zingaba mbi kangakanani kuwe. Uma i-genetic predisposition inamandla kakhulu, futhi izimo ezifanele zokuqaliswa kwayo "ngendlela enokuthula" azidalwanga, ngeke ukwazi ukufundisa kabusha inja. Uma ukuziphatha okuzelwe kanye nokufundwayo kusengqungqutheleni eqinile, ukuphumelela kokuzalwa.