Kunjani ukukhwelana konogwaja abahlobisa nabancane

Njengomthetho, onogwaja okuhlobisa bazala inzalo isilinganiso izikhathi eziyisikhombisa ngonyaka. Ezimweni zemvelo, lapho onogwaja basendle basemzabalazweni ongalingani wokuphila, ukuzala njalo kusiza ukugcina uhlobo. Ukuba sezinkulisa ngaphansi kokuqondiswa kwabafuyi abanolwazi, uma kungenzeka, yonke inzalo iyagcinwa, okwenza kube nokwenzeka ukukhulisa onogwaja ngobuningi.

Imvelo ikhulelwa kangangokuthi insikazi ilungele ukukhwelana ngokushesha ngemva kokuzalwa kwamawundlu. Noma yimuphi umfuyi onolwazi anganquma lokhu: izitho zangasese zikanogwaja ziba bomvu futhi zivuvuke, isilwane silahlekelwa ukudla. Uma ukukhwelana kwenzeka phakathi nalesi sikhathi, insikazi izophinde ilungiselele umzuliswano olandelayo.

Cishe izinsuku eziyishumi ngaphambi kokuzalwa, kuhle ukuthi ungaphazamisi insikazi, uvikeleke emsindweni kanye namehlo e-prying, unikeze umama okhulelwe ukudla okulinganiselayo kwekhwalithi, futhi uqaphe ngokucophelela impilo yakhe.

Ukuze inqubo yokukhwelana ingadonseli ngaphandle, ihlelwa ekuseni. Okokuqala, umbhangqwana wethulwa ngokukhulula izilwane phansi ukuze zithandane. Kumele wazi ukuthi insikazi ijwayele ukuziphatha ngendlela efanayo neyeduna, okungukuthi, ukukhweza umlingani wayo. Okulandelayo, insikazi ivunyelwe endaweni yesilisa, kodwa hhayi okuphambene nalokho, uma utshala iduna nonogwaja, cishe uzoqala ukuhogela indawo entsha futhi alahlekelwe yisithakazelo kumakoti.

Kunezikhathi lapho umnikazi engenaso isikhathi sokuhambisa izilwane ezifuywayo ehhokweni, futhi ukukhwelana kwenzeka phansi. Uma unogwaja uqoshama ezidlalweni zakhe zangaphambili, futhi owesilisa, ngemva kokunyakaza okumbalwa, wenza umsindo wesici, ofana nokukhala noma ukuklewula, futhi uwe ngohlangothi lwakhe, khona-ke ukukhwelana sekwenzekile. Eyeduna ingase iphinde izame ukumboza insikazi, okuyinto okungafanele ivunyelwe ukuyenza. Inqubo yokukhwelana kufanele ihlehliswe kuze kuhlwe, ngoba akuthandeki kakhulu ukuqeda abesilisa. Irejimeni emnene yowesilisa ukukhwelana okungu-4 ngosuku, okwesibili ekuseni nakwesibili kusihlwa, nekhefu eliyimpoqo izinsuku ezimbili. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma kukhona abesifazane abambalwa abalungele ukushada.

Inqubo yokukhwelana ephindaphindiwe iyamukeleka uma eyeduna ingahlangani isikhathi eside. Kucatshangelwa ukuthi isidoda esivela ekuhlanganeni kokuqala asifanele uma owesilisa engazange abambe iqhaza ekukhuleni isikhathi esingaphezu kwenyanga. Ukuluka kabusha ngemva kwezinsuku ezinhlanu nakho kuyamukeleka. Uma unogwaja ungawuvumeli owesilisa ukuba angene, uhlukaniswa njengokhavwe ngokwemibandela. Kodwa-ke, akuvamile ukuthi owesifazane angaxoshi owesilisa kakade.

Ngemva kwezinsuku ezingu-15 zokukhulelwa, ungakwazi kakade ukuzwa imibungu ngaphansi kweminwe yakho futhi unqume ubukhulu bayo. Kubalimi abangenalwazi, kunezincomo ezithile: ukuze ungenzi iphutha, okokuqala udinga ukuhlola owesifazane oyedwa kanye noboshwe (ngosuku lwama-25 lokukhulelwa), futhi uqhathanise izinzwa. Uma ukukhulelwa kwesisu kwenzeka, kubalulekile ukuthola imbangela yokuzalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi.

Ngemuva kwezinsuku eziyi-15 kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhwelana, udinga ukunquma ukuthi ngabe kuphumelele yini. Ukuze wenze lokhu, owesifazane kufanele ahlolwe. Ikhanda likanogwaja kufanele liqondiswe kumhloli, ngesandla sobunxele udinga ukubamba insikazi nge-sacrum, futhi uhlole ngokucophelela imibungu ezinhlangothini zombili zesisu esingaphansi ngeminwe yesandla sokudla. Uma "ama-peas" ezwakala ngaphansi kweminwe, ukunitha kuphumelele.

Unogwaja uzala ezinsukwini ezingama-30-31 zokukhulelwa. I-Okrol ivame ukwenzeka ebusuku noma ekuseni kakhulu. Insikazi ehlanzekile ingazala onogwaja abafika kwabahlanu, kanti eyesifazane evamile ingazala amawundlu ayi-15 noma ayi-19. Onogwaja bazalwa bengaboni futhi benqunu, ngosuku lwesibili i-fluff yabo iqala ukukhula, futhi ngo-11-12 amehlo abo avuleka.