Kungani amagundane afuywayo akhotha izandla zawo?

Kumaforamu nezinsiza kufomethi "yezimpendulo zemibuzo", ungathola ukusesha kolwazi kubanikazi abasaqalayo mayelana nokuthi kungani igundane likhotha izandla zalo. Ngezinye izikhathi “abafuyi bamagundane” abangenalwazi bayesaba, bekholelwa ukuthi kukhona okungalungile ngabo, noma basikisele ukuthi imikhuba enjalo ihlotshaniswa kuphela nokunambitheka kokudla eminweni yabo.

I-zoopsychology encane

Kuye kwafakazelwa ukuthi igundane lokuhlobisa liyisilwane somphakathi. Izilwane ezifuywayo zizizwa zikhululeke kakhulu uma ziphakathi kwabanye abantu. Bavame ukulala, benze ibhola elilodwa, baqhudelane ukuze bathole ubumnandi, badlale nje.

Ukuphila emphakathini kuye kwakha amaphethini athile okuziphatha kumagundane. Zinakekelana ngokuthintana, zikhotha imisila nezindlebe, zikhipha isikhumba. Izenzo ezinjalo zisikhumbuza ebuntwaneni, lapho umama enakekela izingane. Ukulungiswa kweqembu kusho ukuthi umphakathi wamagundane unempilo, ujabule futhi unemizwa eyakhayo kuphela.

Iphunga lezibiliboco

Umnikazi, onephunga elidakayo lokuphatha amagundane ezandleni zakhe noma ucezu lokudla olunamathele, angaqiniseka ukuthi isilwane sizokunaka lokhu. Amagundane akhotha izandla zawo, ezama ukuqeda "ubumnandi". Nokho, abanye abanikazi bazigeza kahle ngaphambi kokuxhumana nesilwane sabo esifuywayo, baqede noma iyiphi iphunga, kodwa izilwane zisavame ukukhotha isikhumba. Lokhu kungenxa yezici zokuziphatha "zokupakisha" amagundane.

Ubudlelwano nomnikazi

Okunamathiselwe kubameleli yohlobo lwayo - isici esihlukile esihlukanisa igundane elifuywayo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bangadlulisela lokhu kuziphatha kumnikazi, obaphakelayo futhi abanikeze induduzo.

Lapho igundane likhotha izandla nezinwele zomnikazi walo, lokhu kubonisa isifiso segundane lokunakekela umuntu. Ngokuvamile, isenzo esinjalo siyimpendulo yokunwaya izihlathi kanye ne-scruff yentamo. Abanye abantu bazijwayeza “ukuluma”: bahlela kahle amazinyo abo futhi balume iminwe yabo ngobumnene. Lokhu kuyinkomba yothando lweqiniso nothando lwesilwane kumnikazi. Idlanzana labantu liya phambili, likhotha izihlathi, izindlebe futhi lizama ukupholisha amalensi ezingilazi zabo ukuze akhanye.

Akuwona wonke amagundane afuywayo akhothwayo. "Loveness" incike ezintweni eziningana:

• uhlamvu lwesilwane;
• izinga lothando lomnikazi;
• imininingwane yokuxhumana komnikazi nesilwane esifuywayo kanye nemvamisa yokuxhumana.

Lapho umuntu enesifiso nethuba lokuchitha isikhathi esiningi esilwaneni esifuywayo, ehlikihla uboya bakhe, imivimbo, khona-ke igundane lizobuyisela futhi libonise ukwethemba okuphelele nothando olukhulu kumnikazi, limbhale phansi njengelungu lomhlambi wakhe.