Ukuthuthukisa amazinga okusinda ezingulubeni ezisanda kuzalwa

Ibhalwe nguRoger Boraston

Okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu ngokuzalanisa i-gilt kwakumangalisa kangangokuthi sanquma ukuthi kuzoba nesithakazelo kuwo wonke umuntu, ngakho-ke sabhala lesi sihloko.

Ukunaka kwethu kudonswe kumkhuba owodwa oshaqisayo, esiwuqaphele ngenkathi sifingqa imiphumela yonyaka. Enye insikazi yalahlekelwa amawundlu ayo amabili lapho izalwa, enye yalahlekelwa amawundlu ayo ayisithupha, kanti eyesithathu yazala ngaphambi kwesikhathi futhi njengoba sasingakulindele lokhu, insikazi yagcinwa ekhejini elilodwa neduna elabulala wonke amawundlu ngemva kokuwabulala. zazalwa (okungenani sicabanga ukuthi lokhu kwakunjalo, ngoba wonke amawundlu afa ngenxa yokuhlaselwa). Okusho ukuthi, izinga lokusinda kwamawundlu alizange lidlule ku-40% ngonyaka. Futhi lokho akubalwa abesifazane abashona ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Ngokuqinisekile kukhona okwakumelwe kwenziwe!

Kwadlula omunye unyaka, ekupheleni kwawo umngane wethu wasishayela ucingo evela eWales ukuze athole ukuthi insikazi yakhe iqhuba kanjani, asishiyela yona ukuze ashade nowesilisa ofanelekayo, ngoba wayengafuni ukuthola iduna lalolu hlobo. Izwi ocingweni lalizwakala lithukile, njengoba le ndoda yayilahlekelwe amazinyane ayo amaningi namawundlu ngonyaka owandulele, futhi ukukhathazeka kwayo kwakungelona iqiniso. Ngikwazile ukuphendula ukuthi ukuzalwa kwaqala ezinsukwini ezimbili ngaphambi kosuku obekulindeleke ngalo, kodwa naphezu kwalokhu, insikazi yazala amazingulube amane aphile kahle. Bobabili umama nezingane baqhuba kahle. Futhi eqinisweni, awekho amaphuphu angama-32 azalwa yizinja zethu ashone ngonyaka odlule, okwenza izinga lokusinda ezinyangeni eziyi-12 ezedlule lafika ku-93% uma kuqhathaniswa nama-40% ngonyaka odlule. Kwazalwa amazingulube angu-52 kanti angu-4 kuphela kuwo ashona.

Ngifuna ukukhuluma ngokuthi siyifinyelele kanjani intuthuko enjalo.

Futhi nge-backstory yakho konke okungenhla nangezansi, ngizobuyela emuva lapho siqala ukuzalanisa indodakazi yami izingulube zezilwane ezifuywayo, eminyakeni engu-20 edlule. Naphezu kokuthi ngezinye izikhathi senza amaphutha athile, isibonelo, ekondleni, sisaphumelela kwezinye izinto. Ngokuvamile sivumela izingulube zethu zigijime engadini yethu noma esibayeni. Lokhu kwagcina ama-gilt esesimweni esihle futhi abesifazane bazala abantwana abaqinile, abanempilo ngaphandle kwezinkinga. Kodwa futhi sasigcina abesifazane nabesilisa bendawonye ngaso sonke isikhathi, okwaholela ekuvundiseni kabusha kowesifazane owayesanda kubeletha, futhi ngokuvamile wayefa ngemva kwesikhashana ngemva kokuzalwa kwesibili.

Lezi zinhlaka ezimbili (isimo somzimba nokucindezeleka) kwakuyimbangela yezinkinga zethu lapho siqala ukuzalanisa ama-gilts ebanga. Sathenga ishede esasihlose ukufaka kulo amakheji esazakhela thina. Kodwa, ngeshwa, inqubo yokwakha yaqala ngemva kokuba sesiqalile ukuzalanisa, futhi kwacaca ukuthi imbangela yokuma okubi kwama-gilts nokucindezeleka kwakuwukugcwala kwamakheji akhona, futhi sanquma ukugxila kulokhu.

Futhi isenzakalo esasenza ukuba senze lokhu kwakungesikhathi indodakazi yami u-Becky iletha ingulube ekhulelwe eyayizothengiswa esitolo sezilwane ezifuywayo lapho esebenza khona. Wayemncane kakhulu, ethukile futhi engaphilile kahle. Sambeka ekamelweni elihlukile, samphakela ngokuhlukana, nakuba ayenethuba lokubona abanye, futhi ngezikhathi ezithile sasimvumela ukuba agijime nabanye. Washeshe waba sesimweni esihle, kwangathi uthathwe enkulisa enhle, wazala izingane zakhe kalula. Lapho sekuyisikhathi sokubeletha, konke kwahamba kahle kakhulu, futhi izingane zazizinkulu futhi ziphilile, okwakumangalisa ngosayizi kanye neminyaka yakhe.

Lokhu kwenzeke ngaphambi nje "kokubuyekezwa kwezakhiwo". Ngakhipha wonke amakheji ethu amadala futhi kulawo lapho ama-partitions ayeqinile, ngawafaka amafasitela ezingulube ukuze zikwazi ukubonana. Lokhu kwavumela abesifazane bethu abakhulelwe, ababebekwe emakamelweni ahlukene, ukuba babone abanye. Lokhu kwasivumela ukuba silunyule abesifazane ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa, lapho engachazwanga kahle, futhi singagcini igilithi nabanye kuze kube sekugcineni. Saqiniseka kakhulu ngokunemba kwezenzo zethu kangangokuthi savumela enye yezinsikazi zethu eziqinile futhi ezondlekile ukuba ibelethe ezinyangeni ezine, esasingakaze sizivumele ngaphambili futhi esasingakaze siziphuphe. Wazala kalula izingane ezine eziphile kahle neziqinile. 

Ngakho-ke, zaziyini, ngokombono wethu, izizathu zezinga eliphansi lokusinda kwamawundlu ku-litter? Nazi izibonelo ezine eziyinhloko lapho sakwazi khona ukuxazulula inkinga ngandlela thize:

Icala lokuqala

Abesifazane ababili, ababehlala ndawonye njalo futhi benobungane kakhulu, babeshade neduna elilodwa, futhi ukuze singahlukanisi abangane, sabashiya ukuze bahlale futhi babelethe ehhokweni elilodwa. Njengoba kwenzeka, lokhu kwakuyimbangela yenhlekelele eyalandela. Insikazi yokuqala yazala amawundlu ngaphandle kwezinkinga, kodwa izingane ezizelwe zayijabulisa ingulube yesibili kangangokuthi yaqala umsebenzi ngaphambi kwesikhathi okwakufanele ngabe iqale ngayo, ayizange iphumelele yazama ukuzala abantwana bayo, ingakalungeli ukubeletha, futhi njengendoda. umphumela salahlekelwa kokubili insikazi kanye namawundlu ayo.

Owesifazane wokuqala wancelisa izingane zakhe, kodwa kusukela ngaleso sikhathi siye safunda ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuvumela abesifazane ababili ukuba bazalele ekhejini elilodwa, njengoba kuhlale kunengozi yokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Ngakho-ke, sihlalisa abesifazane abakhulelwe emakhejini ahlukene, okubavumela ukuthi babonane ngemifantu. Kokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu, lokhu akubavimbeli noma kubalimaze nganoma iyiphi indlela.

Icala lesibili

Umama owayebeletha okokuqala wazala ingulube eyodwa, kodwa akakwazanga ukuyikhulula kulwelwesi lwebele ukuze ikwazi ukuphefumula. Ngeshwa, safika sekwephuze kakhulu ukusiza. Ngokushesha samfaka ekuzaleni neduna, futhi lokhu kwaba ukuphela kwecala lethu lapho insikazi, ngemva kokukhwelana kabusha ngokushesha, izala amazinyane engulube enempilo ngaphandle kwezinkinga futhi iphila ngokwayo.

Amacala amathathu nesine

Lezi zimo ezimbili zingahlanganiswa ndawonye: Umehluko kuphela ukuthi enye yezinsikazi yayisuthi kancane futhi sazama ukuyibuyisela esimweni esijwayelekile. Mhlawumbe esinye sezizathu esaholela ekufeni kwaba yilesi kanye. Kunoma ikuphi, sahlukanisa abesifazane ababili kwabesilisa babo ngokushesha nje lapho sesikwazile ukuxilonga ukukhulelwa kwabo. Sawafaka emakhejini ahlukene futhi ngokushesha saqaphela indlela ukudla kwawo nesimo sengqondo esiwohlokayo kakhulu, ayehlala ekhaleni lawo ekhoneni futhi abukeka ecasukile futhi edangele, futhi ayengenazo izinkinga zempilo. Ekugcineni, owesifazane oyedwa, onolwazi kakhulu futhi ebeletha izikhathi eziningana, wazala amawundlu amane, okwasinda eyodwa kuphela (bese ngosizo lwethu), kanti enye yafa.

Isizathu salokhu sibona ukuhlukana okubukhali kowesilisa kanye noshintsho ekhejini, ngakho-ke manje njalo, lapho sifuna ukubeka owesifazane okhulelwe, okokuqala simfaka ekamelweni elisha nowesilisa, futhi lapho esetshenziswa. kuye kancane, simfaka ekhejini eliseduze.

Okusho ukuthi, kuvela ukuthi ngokwakha iwindi elincane phakathi kwamakheji ukuze izingulube zikwazi ukubona futhi zixhumane, ngaleyo ndlela sixazulula inkinga ebaluleke kakhulu yokuhlukaniswa kwezingulube ezikhulelwe. Ezinye izingulube zikhuthazwa ukuba khona kwentombi yesibili, ezinye ngeduna, kanti ezinye iqembu lezilwane. Ukuba khona komakhelwane (omakhelwane) kuthuthukisa isimo sengqondo, nakuba ezinye izingulube zithanda isizungu kanye nokuphila okuzimele. Okungenani, ukukhulumisana okunjalo kunciphisa kakhulu ukucindezeleka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.

Ngemva kokubala konke ukuzalwa, ukufa, ukuthengwa nokudayiswa kwe-gilts endlini yethu eminyakeni yamuva, saqaphela ukuthi inani lama-gilts lishintshe kakhulu, futhi inani lamakheji liye landa kakhulu. Obunye ubunzima oyohlale ubhekana nabo lapho uzalela izingulube ukuthi awusoze waba namakheji amahhala anele! 

© Ukuhunyushwa ngu-Alexandra Belousova