inja enesiyalo

Yiqiniso, wonke umnikazi ufuna inja yakhe ifunde futhi ilandele imithetho yokuhlala emndenini, okungukuthi, ukuqondiswa nokuphepha. Nokho, sekungamakhulu eminyaka izinja zikhuliswa izindlela zobudlova kuphela, futhi noma iyiphi enye indlela iye yahlotshaniswa nokuyekelela. Kodwa ingabe isiyalo nobudlova kuhlobene? Kungenzeka yini ukuthola inja enesiyalo usebenzisa izindlela zobuntu emfundweni nasekuqeqesheni?

Yebo ungakwazi! Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani kahle.

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Kungani udlame ekuqeqesheni izinja luyingozi?

Ngenhlanhla, ososayensi baye bafunda okwengeziwe mayelana Psychology kanye nokuziphatha kwezinja emashumini ambalwa eminyaka edlule kunayo yonke inkulungwane edlule. Futhi akekho ofunde imiphumela yocwaningo ozophika ukuthi indlela esekelwe odlameni iyisihluku esingamukeleki ekubhekaneni nalezi zidalwa ezimangalisayo. Futhi inja enesimilo, enesiyalo ingatholwa ngokuxhumana nayo kuphela ngezindlela zobuntu. Vumelana, lokhu kujabulisa kakhulu kokubili inja kanye nomnikazi (ngaphandle uma, kunjalo, enokuthambekela okudabukisayo, kodwa lena yindawo ye-psychopathology, esingeke siyihlole lapha).

Yiqiniso, ekuphileni kwanoma iyiphi inja kufanele kube nemithetho. Kodwa ziyadingeka ukuze kuthuthukiswe impilo yenja, ukuletha ukubikezela kuyo, futhi hhayi ukuyesabisa.

Izindlela zobudlova ezinjengokushaya, ukudlikiza ngentambo, ukuklinywa, ukuphenduka kwe-alpha nezinye izinsalela zesikhathi esidlule ezimbi azikwazi ukusetshenziswa ngokumelene nenja. Lezi izindlela ezisatuswa ngenkuthalo abanye abaphathi bezinja abangenaso isifiso noma ikhono lokusebenzisa indlela ehlukile - phela, "abantu bayadla".

Udlame lwalungisiswa (futhi lusaqhubeka nokuthethelelwa) ngokuthi kuyasiza ukufakazela ukuthi ubani “oyinhloko yephakethe.” Kodwa-ke, empeleni, kwehlisa ukuthembela kwenja kumuntu kuphela, futhi kungavusa ulaka lokuziphindiselela noma ukungakwazi ukuzisiza okufundile. Umqondo wokubusa kwezinja phezu kwabantu sekuyisikhathi eside uqashelwa njengongamukeleki, njengoba wakhelwe emicabangweni eyiphutha engahlangene neqiniso. Kodwa noma kunjalo, bayaqhubeka nokuyisa oqulwini ngokuphikelela okunomona. Futhi abanikazi abaningi bayaziqhenya ngokuthi "baphatha" kanjani ababusi. Nakuba kungekho nhlobo ongaziqhenya ngakho lapha ...

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Indlela yokukhulisa inja enesiyalo ngaphandle kobudlova?

Izinja AKUZAMI ukubusa noma ukugqilaza uhlobo lwe-Homo sapiens. Bazama kuphela ukuzivumelanisa nezimo abanikazi abadalele bona. Akusekho okungaphansi. Futhi umsebenzi womnikazi onekhono nonomthwalo wemfanelo ukusiza isilwane, hhayi ukwandisa isimo ngonya lwabo.

Izindlela eziyinhloko zokukhulisa inja enesiyalo:

• Ukudalwa kwezimo zokuphila ezamukelekayo. 
• Ukudala izimo ukuze ukuziphatha kwenkinga kungazibonakalisi (ukuphathwa kwesimo). Ngoba, njengoba wazi, ukuvimbela kuyikhambi elingcono kakhulu.
• Ukufundisa ukuziphatha okuhle ngemivuzo. Khetha umvuzo ofanele “lapha futhi manje” futhi uqinise ngesikhathi esifanele. Kholisa inja yakho ukuthi kuphephile ukubhekana nawe, nokuthi ukubambisana kumnandi futhi kunenzuzo.
• Ukwanda kancane kancane kwezinga lezidingo, isimiso "kusuka kokulula kuya kokuyinkimbinkimbi".
• Ukuziba inkinga yokuziphatha (ukuziphatha okungaqinisiwe kuyaphela), noma ukushintsha nokufunda enye indlela eyamukelekayo (ngoba ukugqugquzela ngandlela thize kudinga ukwaneliseka), noma ukusetshenziswa kwesijeziso esibi (ngokwesibonelo, ukumisa umdlalo noma ukuphela kwesikhathi) - kuye ngokuthi yikuphi efaneleka kakhulu esimweni esithile. Lezi zindlela zokulungisa ziyaqondakala inja, zibafundisa ukwenza ukukhetha okufanele futhi aziwona umthombo wokucindezeleka okwengeziwe kubo.

Le mithetho isebenza kunoma iyiphi inja, kungakhathaliseki ubukhulu noma uhlobo. Umsebenzi womnikazi uwukufunda ukuthi zisetshenziswa kanjani. Futhi ekugcineni yeka ukusola inja ngazo zonke izono ezifayo.

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Akunzima njengoba kungase kubonakale, into eyinhloko isifiso kanye ... kancane nokuzithiba. Phela umuntu uyisidalwa esiphusile. Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe kufanele usebenzise ingqondo ekwakheni ubudlelwano nomngane onemilenze emine?