Ingabe amakati akulungele?

Ucabanga ngokuthola ikati okokuqala ngqa empilweni yakho? Siyakuhalalisela!

Cishe uyawathanda amakati, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uthathe izinyane lakho lokuqala, zibuze: “Ingabe ngiwathanda ngempela amakati? Ngingumuntu wekati? Ngingathola kanjani? Zibuze imibuzo emithathu elandelayo abathandi bekati abavame ukuhlonzwa ngayo.

1. Uyawaqonda amakati?

Esinye sezinyathelo zokuqala ekunqumeni ukuthi ungumuntu wekati ukhuluma nabanye abanikazi bezilwane ezifuywayo. Vakashela abangani abambalwa abanamakati ukuze wazi izinhlobo ezahlukene kanye nobuntu balezi zilwane ezinhle. Ukuvakashela abangani abanamakati nakho kuyindlela enhle yokuhlola ukuthi awuzwani nezilwane. Uma ekhona, ungalilahli ithemba. Ukunakekelwa okufanele kanye nemithi yokungezwani komzimba kungenza ukuphila nekati kube lula, kodwa qiniseka ukuthi uthintana nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo sokugcina.

Kungumqondo omuhle ukuvakashela izindawo zokukhosela izilwane zendawo ukuze uthole umngane ofanelekayo. Indawo yokukhosela izokhuluma nawe mayelana nesimo sengqondo, amandla, amakhono omphakathi kanye nobuntu bamakati namakati alungele ukutholwa. Uzokwazi futhi ukudlala nokuxhumana nezilwane, okuzoba usizo olubalulekile ekuthathweni kwezinqumo.

Buza abangani bakho imibuzo ebalulekile mayelana nokuthi kunjani ukuba nekati. Ngokwesibonelo, babuze ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukunakekela ubuhle onoboya, yimiphi imithwalo yemfanelo abanayo ngokuba khona kwakhe endlini, nokuthi ingakanani imali abayichitha ekuthengeni kwakhe, izinto ezisetshenziswayo, nokunakekelwa kwezokwelapha nyanga zonke.

Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi nakuba amakati eyizilwane ezifuywayo ezimangalisayo, aphinde akhulume kakhulu ngabantu ngabanye. Angase angabi izidalwa ezinothando kakhulu ongazihlanganisa nazo, futhi kubalulekile ukukuqonda lokhu ngaphambi kokuba ulethe ikati lakho ekhaya. Ukubekezela nokuqonda okuningi kwesimo sekati lakho kuzokusiza ukuthi uzwane kangcono nalo futhi ungakhungatheki ngenxa yokungakhethi kwalo ngezikhathi ezithile.

2. Ingabe unayo imali?

Isimo sakho sezezimali kufanele sikuvumele ukuthi usekele izinyane lekati. Ngaphezu kwezinto eziyisisekelo ezifana nokudla, isitsha, ibhokisi likadoti, amathoyizi, ikhola yethegi kanye nokuhlolwa kwezilwane, kunezinye izindleko okufanele zicatshangelwe, uVetstreet uveza: cabangela ukukhokhela ukunakekelwa kwezilwane ezivamile, isabelomali esiphuthumayo, kanye nezindleko zomshuwalense uma nquma ukuyithenga.” Thola izindleko zamasevisi anjalo endaweni yangakini ukuze ulungiselele kahle isabelomali somndeni.

Isilwane esifuywayo asidingi nje ukutshalwa kwezimali ngokwezimali kodwa sidinga nokutshalwa kwezimali ngokomzwelo.

Uma ungumhambi ovamile noma umatasatasa njalo, ngisho noma usekhaya, ungase ungakulungeli ukuba nesilwane esifuywayo. U-Petcha uchaza ukuthi nakuba amakati ekwazi ukuzijabulisa phakathi nosuku, ahlala enesithukuthezi futhi enesizungu, azizwe ehlukene futhi ecindezelekile uma abanikazi bawo bevamise futhi/noma bengekho isikhathi eside. Ngokwezinga elithile, amakati ayizilwane ezikwazi ukuzimela (ngokwesibonelo, akudingekile ukuba uphuthume ekhaya ngesikhathi sokudla kwasemini ukuze uwavumele aphumele ngaphandle ayosebenzisa indlu yangasese), kodwa akufanele uwashiye yedwa isikhathi eside.

Ukuhlala nekati nakho kudinga isineke nokuqonda okukhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uletha izinyane lekati noma ikati elikhulile ekhaya, nakanjani kuyodingeka ubhekane nesikhathi sokulungisa lapho nizokwazi khona ukuziphatha, imikhuba nezinto ezithandwayo. Ngezinye izikhathi amakati enza izinto eziyinqaba, njengokugijima ezungeza igumbi ngaphandle kwesizathu noma ukugqolozela endaweni efanayo odongeni isikhathi eside, kodwa ungakhathazeki, lokhu kuvamile ngokuphelele kubo.

Abanikazi bekati nabo kufanele babhekane nezimo nemisebenzi ehlukahlukene engathandeki, futhi kufanele uzibuze ukuthi usukulungele yini lokhu. Ukuhlanzwa kwethreyi, ukuklwebheka ngezikhathi ezithile, ama-meows asekuseni, nezipho zamagundane afile ezinye zazo. Ngokwenza kanjalo, kufanele unikeze ikati uthando nothando ngisho nasezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu.

3. Ingabe uzimisele ukwabelana nabanye?

Okunye okumele kucace mayelana nokuqinisekisa ukuthi ungumuntu wekati ukuzimisela kwakho ukwabelana ngezinto zakho ngoba umlingani wakho omusha onoboya uzothatha usofa wakho, isihlalo osithandayo kanye nombhede wakho. Lezi zinto ngeke zisaba ezakho kuphela! Kungase kudingeke ukuthi uhlele kabusha ukwamukela umngane wakho onemilenze emine endlini yakho. Khumbula ukuthi amakati adinga izinto ezifana nombhede, iposi lokuklwebha, isihlahla sekati, nokunye, konke okudinga indawo.

Futhi njengoba ikati lizokwenza ikhaya lakho libe ngelakhe, kufanele ulakhele indawo ephephile. Hlola ikhaya lakho ngeso lekati ukuze uthole izingozi ezingaba khona, okuhlanganisa izintambo ezixegayo nezintambo, izitshalo nezimbali ezinobuthi, izinto ezintekenteke, nezinto ezingadala ingozi yokuklinywa, njengentambo, amaribhoni, izinkinobho, nezinhlamvu zemali. Ukulungiselela isilwane sakho ekhaya kufana nokugcina ingane yakho iphephile ekhaya, futhi ngendlela, uma unezingane, kubalulekile ukubafundisa ukuthi bangaxhumana kanjani ngokuphepha nekati.

Mhlawumbe umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu okufanele uzibuze wona uthi, “Ngabe ngiyayazi inhloso yesikhathi eside yalokhu?” Amakati angaphila iminyaka engu-20 noma ngaphezulu futhi uzoba umhlaba wawo. Umngane wakho onoboya uthembele kuwe ukuthi umgcine enempilo, ephephile futhi ejabule.

Uma uphendule ngokuthi “yebo” kule mibuzo emithathu, khona-ke ungumuntu wekati! Sikufisela wena nomngane wakho wesikhathi esizayo onoboya konke okuhle kakhulu.