izindlela zokuzihlanganisa nekati

Ukuhlalisana kwekati emndenini omusha kudinga isineke esikhulu njengothando ngalo. Ngisho nekati elikhulile elithathwe endaweni yokukhosela izilwane lingase lisabe, lihoxiswe, noma lidideke lapho likhona lalabo lihlala nabo endlini, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi lamukelekile ngempela. Ngezansi uzothola amathiphu okuthi ungasithatha kanjani isikhathi sakho futhi unikeze ikati lakho indawo eyanele ukulisiza ukuthi lazi ikhaya lalo elisha kanye nabantu abahlala kulo.

1. Ithuba lokuhlola insimu.

Lapho ujwayela ikati ekhaya elisha, umsebenzi wakho ukubheka isimo ngamehlo akhe: uyesaba, ngoba wayesendaweni engaziwa lapho "ama-giants" (wena nomndeni wakho) ahlala khona, ahlala elwela ukubamba futhi mgone. Lokhu kungase kungabekezeleleki, ikakhulukazi kumakati anamahloni. Ngakho-ke tshela amalungu omndeni wakho ukuthi angaphazamisi isilwane esisha esihlola ikhaya lakho. Kuthatha isikhathi ukuba ikati lifunde amakha, liqalaze, futhi ekugcineni libone izindawo eziphephile elingacasha kuzo ngezinye izikhathi. Lokhu kuzomvumela ukuthi athole ukuthi yimaphi amagumbi ekabani, futhi azenzele “imephu” yakhe yekhaya elisha ekhanda lakhe.

2. Umdondoshiya onomusa.

Ekuqaleni, ilungu ngalinye lomkhaya kufanele lihlale lithule noma linake elalo ibhizinisi. Uma ikati lisondela kuwe, yehlisa kancane isandla sakho ukuze ikati lisihogele. Ngaphandle kokunyakaza kungazelelwe, qala ukumphulula emhlane. Uma evumela, mbambathe ebusweni: lena futhi kuyindlela enhle yokubingelela, ngoba ngale ndlela ikati lizokunikeza iphunga lalo, ngaleyo ndlela likumaka njengomngane. Buka umsila wakhe: ngayo, isilwane sibonisa ukukhathazeka noma isimo sengqondo. Umsila ngokujwayelekile ungatshela okuningi mayelana nemizwa yekati.

3. Ikati lidinga ukujwayela wena.

Uma isikhathi esithile ikati licashile noma lingabonanga abantu abathile, lingase liphinde lizizwe lithukile lapho likhona, njengokungathi lingabantu angabazi. Tshela umndeni wakho nabangani ukuthi bamvumele akhululeke kubo. Isazi sokuziphatha kwekati u-Marilyn Krieger uphakamisa ukwelula umunwe wenkomba kuqala. Kungase kuthathe imizuzu embalwa ukuthi ikati lisungule (noma liphinde limise) ukuxhumana phakathi kwaleli phunga nomuntu othile. Kodwa-ke, lapho ukuxhumana sekusunguliwe, uzokwazisa ngokukuhlikihla, ukuxubha noma ukumemeza ngenjabulo njengophawu lokubingelela. 

4. Indawo ephephile yekati.

Lapho sizijabulisa, isilwane esifuywayo kufanele sibe nendawo ephephile esingahlala kuyo uma sesaba. Kudingeka ikati hhayi nje okokuqala, kodwa futhi esikhathini esizayo, lapho isivele ikhululekile endaweni entsha. Ngenxa yalezi zinhloso, kungcono ukubeka ngokushesha ibhokisi noma umthwali ekamelweni. Mfake ithawula noma okuthile okuthambile ngaphakathi ukuze acashe ngakho. Ibhokisi lekhadibhodi libuye lifanele indima yokukhosela. Sika isicabha kuwo ukuze ikati likwazi ukungena nokuphuma kalula. Ngosizo lwendawo yokukhosela enjalo, ikati lizokujwayela futhi liqale ukukwethemba.

5. Khuthaza ukuziphatha komphakathi, ungabanaki okunye.

Lapho ikati lakho liphuma lizohlola wena nomndeni wakho, lidumise, uliphe ukudla, futhi uliphulule ngobumnene. Uma ecashile, ungamnaki futhi ungazami ukumkhipha endaweni yokukhosela. Ngesikhathi sokuhlalisana, kubalulekile ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha okufunayo futhi umane ungazinaki izinto ezingathandeki. Lapho ikati lifuna ukukubonisa uthando lwalo, zwela: ukusabela kwakho kunquma ukuthi lizoba namahloni noma libe nesibindi.

6. Indlela yokwethemba ingokuvamile.

Ukuxhumana kwekati kuba lula lapho ejwayela iqiniso lokuthi abanye baziphatha ngendlela ebikezela kusukela ekuqaleni. Lokhu kumvumela ukuthi azizwe evikelekile ngokwazi ukuthi yini okufanele ayilindele ezivakashini nakumalungu omndeni. Izihlobo, isilwane esifuywayo esivame ukuzibona, kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi sifuye futhi siphakele ikati ngesikhathi sokuvakasha. Lokhu kuzomsiza ukuthi azijwayeze futhi azikhumbule ngokushesha. Yondla ikati lakho njalo ukuze lazi ukuthi ungathenjelwa kulo futhi liyancipha ukukhathazeka. Ukudla, njengoba usuqonde kakade, kuwumsizi omkhulu ekwakheni ubuhlobo obuhle nesilwane.

Hlala eduze nekati ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphandle kokuxhumana ngqo nalo. Ungamcindezeli ukuthi adlale noma eze kuwe. Buka i-TV ekamelweni elilodwa naye noma ufunde incwadi. Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ekamelweni elilodwa nesilwane, ngokushesha noma kamuva uzofeza ukuthi ikati lizokhula ngamandla futhi lize kuwe.

Mhlawumbe i-cliché, kodwa noma kunjalo: thatha isikhathi sakho. Amakati ayafana nabantu okungenani ngendlela eyodwa: angaba nobungane, abe namahloni, abe nolaka, futhi angenzi lutho. Ngokuya ngobuntu obuhlukile besilwane sakho esifuywayo, singase sisondelane nomndeni ngaso leso sikhathi noma sithathe izinsuku ezimbalwa. Ungathathi isinyathelo ezandleni zakho: awukwazi ukuphoqelela uthando nothando ekatini lapho yena ngokwakhe engakabi nawe. Uma usunazo izilwane ezifuywayo, funda isihloko sethu sokwethula ikati lakho elisha kwezinye izilwane.