Ingabe kufanele ngithole inja yesibili?

Uma ucabanga ngenja yesibili, akubona bonke abanikazi abangabheka isimo ngendlela efanele. Isilwane ngasinye sinesimilo nesimo saso sokuziphatha. Kukhona futhi ama-introverts angempela e-melancholy phakathi kwabo, lapho ukubonakala komakhelwane kuzoba yiphupho elibi langempela. Ungakugwema kanjani?

Izici zokukhetha inja yesibili:

• Character

Into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyinake isimilo sesilwane. Bheka ngokucophelela indlela inja eziphatha ngayo izihlobo zayo, ukuthi ikwenza ngokuzithandela kangakanani ukuthintana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ivumela abantu abangabazi ukuba bangene ensimini yayo.

Uma uhlela ukuthatha inja yesibili kusuka endlini yenja, kunengqondo ukuyivakashela kanye nenja yokuqala. Ngakho uyoba nethuba lokwazana futhi, eqinisweni, akhethe umakhelwane nawe.

• Ubudala

Akuwona umqondo omuhle ukuba nezinja ezimbili ezineminyaka efanayo, nakuba kubonakala sengathi kuyinto efanele ukuyenza. Injabulo ephindwe kabili ingaphenduka iphupho elibi eliphindwe kabili, ngoba zombili izilwane ezifuywayo zidinga ukunakwa komnikazi nemidlalo, okusho ukuthi ubunzima obuphindwe kabili ngesikhathi sokukhula kanye namaphutha angenzeka emfundweni.

Umehluko weminyaka engu-4-6 uthathwa njengolungile, kanti inja yesibili endlini kufanele ibe mncane. Ngakho-ke, ngeke nje abonise inhlonipho kumngane wakhe omdala, kodwa futhi akopishe ukuziphatha kwakhe nemikhuba yakhe. Yingakho abaphathi bezinja batusa ukuthola inja yesibili kuphela lapho ukuziphatha kokuqala kungakuniki inkinga. Uma kungenjalo, umphumela ungase uhluke kulokho okulindelekile.

• Ubulili

Elinye iphuzu elibalulekile ubulili besilwane esifuywayo esizayo. Kuyaziwa ukuthi abesilisa ababili bangaxabana ngendawo kaningi kunabesifazane. Nokho, izintokazi ezimbili cishe azikwazi ukuhlalisana ngokuthula phakathi ne-estrus, ukukhulelwa, noma ukuncelisa imidlwane. Izinja zobulili obuhlukene ziyakwazi ukuhambisana ngokushesha, kodwa kulokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqapha ngokucophelela ukuziphatha kwabo ngesikhathi socansi. Nokho, okuningi kuncike esimweni sezilwane ezifuywayo kanye neqiniso lokuvala inzalo.

Esinye sezizathu ezivame kakhulu zokuthola inja yesibili yisifiso somnikazi sokukhanyisa impilo yansuku zonke yesilwane sakhe: ukuze angabi nesithukuthezi ngenkathi umnikazi esebenza. Kodwa lena akuyona indlela efanele ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngezinye izikhathi ukubonakala kwesilwane sesibili kwenza isilwane sokuqala sihoxiswe futhi sivaliwe, ngoba esikhundleni sokuxhumana nomnikazi, uthola ukucindezeleka kwansuku zonke nokungakhululeki. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukusiza izilwane zijwayelane futhi zijwayelane ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.

Indlela yokuvimbela izingxabano?

• Hlonipha ubuholi. Okokuqala, uthele ukudla esitsheni senja endala, ushaye futhi uyidumise kuqala - ngezwi, umqhudelwano kufanele uhlale unaye;
• Ungaphuli isimiso sakho. Elinye lamaphutha amakhulu abanikazi bezinja ezimbili abasanda kwenziwa ukuthi bayayeka ukugcina amasiko nemikhuba eyamukelwa emndenini. Indlela yokuphila yenja yokuqala akufanele neze ishintshe ngokuphawulekayo ngokufika komakhelwane. Uma nihambe isikhathi eside ndawonye ekuseni nakusihlwa, okokuqala qhubekani ukwenza lokhu ndawonye kuphela;
• Ungadali ukuncintisana. Kubalulekile ukwabelana ngakho konke kusuka endishini kuya kumathoyizi kanye nombhede. Izinja ziyakwazi ukuzwa umuzwa womhawu nokunengeka maqondana nezihlobo. Ngakho-ke, isilwane ngasinye kufanele sibe nezinto zaso;
• Yenzani konke ndawonye. Imidlalo ehlanganyelwe, ukuhamba ngezinyawo nokuqeqeshwa kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza izilwane ezifuywayo zibe umngane nomunye nomunye, ngoba lezi yizilwane zomphakathi ezidinga ukuba sephaketheni.

Yiqiniso, inja yesibili iwumthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu akuwona wonke umnikazi ongakwazi ukuwuthatha. Kunezici eziningi okufanele zicatshangelwe futhi kufanele kubhekwe abaphathi bendlu ukuze izilwane zibe khona emhlabeni futhi zilethe injabulo kuphela emndenini wonke.