Ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana

Uma kufanele ushiye inja yakho yodwa, kungabangela ukukhathazeka. Ukunamathela ngokweqile kumnikazi nokukhathazeka okubangelwa ukwehlukana kungase kube ngenxa yokuhlukana ngaphambi kwesikhathi nomama, izehlakalo ezibuhlungu zesikhathi esidlule kanye nezici zentukuthelo.

Ushiya inja yakho imizuzu engu-20 nje ukuya esitolo, futhi lapho ubuya, ubone ukuthi ishaye umgqomo kadoti, ihlafune imicamelo, noma yenza udaka ephasishi. Uma lokhu kuziphatha kuphindwa njalo, inja yakho cishe ihlushwa ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana.

Ukwethembela ngokweqile

Ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana kuvamile ezinjeni futhi ngokuvamile kubangelwa ukuncika ngokweqile kumnikazi. Isizathu singase sibe ukuthi umdlwane wasuswa kunina kusenesikhathi, walahlwa, noma inja imane inomoya onjalo.

Lesi simo sinzima ukusilungisa, kodwa akukho okungenzeki. Ukubekezela - futhi ekugcineni uzokwazi ukulungisa ukuziphatha okunjalo okulimazayo, okubangelwa ukukulangazelela kwakho kwesilwane sakho lapho ungekho.

Yini okufanele uyibheke

Izinkinga ezivame ukubonwa wukuphuma indle ezindaweni obekungahlosiwe, ukulinyazwa kwempahla yomnikazi, ukukhonkotha nokuhhewula, ukwenqaba ukudla, ukuzilimaza kanye nokuzikhotha okuyimpoqo.  

Ukujezisa akuyona inketho

Isijeziso siyinto yokugcina esimeni esinjena. Inja ngeke ikwazi ukuqonda ukuhlobana phakathi kokucasuka kwayo lapho ungekho kanye nesijeziso esithola ngemva kwamahora ambalwa. Kungase kubonakale sengathi inja izizwa inecala, kodwa lokhu kuwukuziphatha nje kokuzithoba - izinja azizizwa zinecala, kodwa zingalindela isijeziso esizayo.

Inja ingase ibheke phansi, ifake umsila phakathi kwemilenze yangemuva, itshibilike, noma ilele ngomhlane iveza isisu—lezi izimpawu zokuziphatha okuzithobayo, hhayi ukuba necala. Inja ikutshela ukuthi, “Hhayi-ke, ungumphathi. Ungangishayi”. Ukujeziswa kungaqeda kuphela izimpawu zokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana, kodwa ngeke kubhekane nomsuka wenkinga.

Zijwayeze kancane kancane

Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuxazulula inkinga ukunciphisa ukulutheka nokukhathazeka enja yakho. Ukwenza lokhu, kwanele nje ukujwayela inja yakho kubantu abahlukene abeza endlini yakho.

Uma uphuma endlini, ungabangeli ukuxokozela nokuvalelisa isikhathi eside, njengoba lokhu kuzokwandisa ukukhathazeka kwesilwane. Lapho ubuya, bingelela kuphela ngemva kokuba esethule.

Ungakwazi "ukuzijwayeza" ukuphuma nokungena ukuze inja ijwayele ukunyakaza kwakho. Yenza lokhu izikhathi eziningana ngosuku, ngenkathi wenza zonke izenzo ojwayele ukuzenza uma uzohamba ngempela.

Jikisa okhiye bakho, thatha isikhwama sakho noma isikhwama sakho, gqoka ijakhethi yakho, bese uphuma ngomnyango. Ungakwazi ngisho nokungena emotweni yakho futhi ushayele uzungeze indlu. Buya ngemva komzuzu owodwa noma emibili.

Njengoba inja yakho iqala ukujwayela ukunyamalala kwakho, kancane kancane ukwandisa isikhathi sokungabikho kwakho. Umgomo wakho uwukuba ukwazi ukuhamba ekhaya uphinde ubuye inja yakho ingenzanga lutho.

Uma ungakwazi ukushiya inja yodwa ihora, ungakwazi ukuhamba ngokuphepha ekuseni noma ntambama.

Ungamnaki nje!

Uma izinkinga ziqhubeka, kungase kudingeke unciphise ukuncika kwenja yakho kuwe. Kuzwakala kunonya, kodwa udinga ukuziba inja yakho isonto elilodwa kuya kwamabili.

Cela omunye umuntu ukuthi aphakele, ahambe futhi adlale nenja, kodwa kungcono uma abantu abambalwa abahlukene benza lokhu. Akulula ukusishaya indiva isilwane sakho, ikakhulukazi uma sikufuna ngabomvu ukunakwa, kodwa ngemva kwamasonto ambalwa uyothola ukuthi sesiphelelwe uthando.

Njengenjwayelo, uma unezinkinga ngesilwane sakho esifuywayo, kufanele uxhumane nodokotela wakho wezilwane, ongakwazi ukunquma ukuthi ukungaziphathi kahle kwenja kungenxa yokuhlukana noma kunezinye izizathu.

Izinkinga ezinjalo zingaxazululwa kanye nomuntu ophethe izilwane.