Inja yami ayishiywa yodwa ekhaya! Ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana ezinjeni

ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana, noma ukuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka (ebizwa nangokuthi "ukukhathazeka kokuhlukana") ingenye evame kakhulu izinkinga zokuziphatha ezinjeni. Futhi, ngeshwa, akulula kakhulu ukukulungisa. Abanikazi bakhala ngokuthi inja iyakhala uma ishiywe yodwa ekhaya, ikhonkotha uma ishiywe yodwa, ishiya amadamu nezinqwaba, yonakalise izinto ... Kungani ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana kwenzeka ezinjeni futhi ingabe isilwane sasekhaya singasizwa ukubhekana nale nkinga?

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Kuyini ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana ezinjeni futhi kubonakala kanjani?

Ukukhathazeka kokukhathazeka, noma ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana ezinjeni, kuyisifo esiyinkimbinkimbi. Izinja ezihlushwa yizo azikwazi ukushiywa zodwa ekhaya, futhi lokhu kudala izinkinga hhayi zona kuphela, kodwa nabanikazi bazo (kanye nomakhelwane).

Imvamisa, isifo sokukhathazeka singatholwa ngokuya ngezinqubo ezintathu:

1. Inja iyakhala, ngezinye izikhathi ikhala futhi/noma ikhonkotha lapho ishiywe yodwa ekhaya.
2. Ukuziphatha okulimazayo (ukulimala kwempahla).
3. Ukungcola (izinqwaba namachibi lapho abanikazi bengekho).

Ukuze uhlole inkinga yokukhathazeka enjeni, okungenani izingxenye ezimbili kufanele zibe khona.

Kubalulekile ukuthi umnikazi akhumbule ukuthi ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana akuyona "ingozi", kodwa isifo esidinga ukwelashwa. Abanye abanikazi bacasulwa ukuziphatha kwezinja zabo kangangokuthi bakhipha intukuthelo yabo, kodwa lokhu kwandisa inkinga. Inja ayikwazi ukubhekana nokukhathazeka iyodwa futhi ayikwazi ukulawula lokhu kuziphatha.

Ukuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka (ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana) akufanele kudidaniswe nezinye izinkinga, njengokuqeqeshwa ngokuzenzekelayo, lapho abanikazi beqinisa ngokungazi ukukhala kwenja, noma ngesithukuthezi.

Ukuze uqonde ukuthi kungani inja ikhala noma ikhala lapho ishiywe yodwa, kufanelekile ukufaka ikhamera yevidiyo. Ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana kungabuye kuboniswe ukungahlaliseki kwenja, ukuqhinqa kakhulu, ukuhlanza, kwesinye isikhathi isifo sohudo, kanye/noma ukuzilimaza (isb., ukuziluma kwenja ngokwayo).

Kungani ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana kukhula ezinjeni?

Kunemibono eminingana mayelana nezimbangela zokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana ezinjeni:

1. Ukwephulwa kokunamathiselwe. Inja enohlobo olungavikelekile lokunamathiselwe ihlale iqaphile futhi inesidingo esingenakuvinjelwa somthunzi womnikazi, ithuthumela kakhulu lapho ishiywe yodwa.
2. I-anxiety disorder ingenye yezibonakaliso ze-phobia. Isibonelo, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ingxenye yezinja ezinokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana nayo ihlushwa i-noise phobia (ukwesaba imisindo ephezulu).
3. Ithiyori yokucindezeleka. Abalandeli balo mbono bakholelwa ukuthi kuyadingeka ukwelapha ukucindezeleka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyini imbangela. 

Ungayisiza kanjani inja ukuba ibhekane nokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana nokuthi ungayiqeqesha kanjani inja ukuthi ihlale ekhaya yodwa?

Kunezindlela ezimbalwa zokuqeqesha inja yakho ukuthi ihlale yodwa ekhaya futhi ibhekane nokukhathazeka:

1. Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukudala izimo zokuphila ezisezingeni eliphezulu zenja. Inja ayikwazi nje ukuziphatha ngendlela evamile ezimweni ezingavamile. Uma unganikezi isilwane sakho inkululeko emihlanu edingekayo empilweni evamile, noma yikuphi ukulungiswa kokuziphatha kuzohluleka kusenesikhathi.
2. Sebenzisa amaphrothokholi okuphumula ukuze ufundise inja yakho ukuthi iphumule kuqala endaweni ezolile ngangokunokwenzeka, bese kuba phambi kwezisusa.
3. Kancane kancane ufundise inja ukuthi ihlale yodwa - okokuqala ekamelweni elihlukile elinomnyango ovulekile, bese - ngomnyango uvaliwe, bese - efulethini. Kukhona izivivinyo ezikhethekile ezisiza ukufundisa inja ngokuzola ukuba yedwa. Ungaxhumana nomeluleki ngokuziphatha kwezinja ongakusiza uthole izindlela ezifanele.
4. Udokotela wezilwane anganika inja imithi ezosiza ukubhekana nenkinga. Kodwa akukho cala musa self-medicate!  

Ungalokothi ujezise inja yakho! Ukujeziswa kwandisa ukukhathazeka kuphela, ngakho-ke kwandisa inkinga.

Uma inja yakho ingakwazi ukuhlala yodwa ekhaya ngenxa yesifo sokukhathazeka, kuzodingeka ubekezele: le nkinga ithatha isikhathi esiningi ukuyixazulula. Abanye abanikazi bakuthola kulula ukushintsha izimo zokuphila zenja ukuze ingahlupheki iyodwa: isibonelo, ukusebenzisa izinkonzo ze-"dogsitter" (dogsitter) noma ukucela abangani noma izihlobo ukuba zinakekele inja.

Khumbula ukuthi ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana, ngisho noma kubonakala sengathi ukunqobile, kungase kubuye - isibonelo, lapho izimo zokuphila zenja zishintsha. Kodwa-ke, ungalilahli ithemba - uma uke wabhekana nenkinga kanye, khona-ke kukhona ithuba lokuthi uzokwazi ukusiza isilwane sakho uma kwenzeka ubuyela emuva.