Amakati a-Monogamous: ikati likhetha kanjani umuntu walo

Lapho ikati livela endlini, lihlala lijabulisa wonke amalungu omndeni kanye nokuqala kwempilo entsha yesilwane. Ezinyangeni zokuqala, ikati libonisa izintandokazi zalo: ikhetha indawo eyintandokazi efulethini, ithoyizi eliyintandokazi nesithandwa. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi kunzima kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izinqubo lokhu kukhetha kwenziwa.

Indlela ikati elikhetha ngayo isilwane esifuywayo endlini

Kunombono wokuthi amakati awafuni ukunamathela kakhulu kubantu, ukuthi azimele futhi "ahamba ngokwawo", kodwa akunjalo. Ngokushesha noma kamuva, ubuhle be-fluffy buzokhomba othandekayo wakhe futhi buqale ukubonisa ukunakwa okwengeziwe kuye: cela izingalo zakhe, umlandele ngomsila wakhe, zama ukumgcina embona. Ukuzikhethela ngokuvamile akuweli ilungu lomndeni eliphakela ikati futhi lihlanze ithreyi lakhe, kodwa kumuntu othatha ingxenye enkulu empilweni yakhe. Ukudlala nesilwane esifuywayo, ukukhuluma kanye neminye imisebenzi ehlanganyelwe kuletha ndawonye futhi kwakha isibopho esiqinile ngokomzwelo phakathi kwekati nomnikazi walo. 

Izimpawu zothando emakati

Ukuze uqonde ukuthi iyiphi yendlu ikati elithanda kakhulu, kwanele ukubuka ukuziphatha. Isilwane esifuywayo sibonisa uthando lwaso ngezindlela eziningana:

• ulandela indoda yakhe ezithendeni, uzama ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi naye ngangokunokwenzeka;
• ulungisa imodi yomnikazi - alale futhi avuke naye;
• uphulula futhi unyathele othandekayo;
• ikuvumela ukuba wenze izinqubo ezingajabulisi, njengokugeza nokusika izipikili;
• ulangazelela ngesikhathi engekho lo muntu nokunye.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngisho noma intandokazi yekati ishiya isikhathi eside, ngeke imkhohlwe futhi izobonisa injabulo emhlanganweni.

Indlela yokuthola uthando lwekati

Uma, ngemva kokuvela kwekati endlini, kubonakala ukuthi isilwane asibonisi imizwa efudumele kuwe, ungazama ukuthola uthando lwakhe. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukulandela imithetho ethile:

• ungaphoqi futhi unikeze isilwane isikhathi sokwazana;
• naka ikati, xhumana, khuluma naye, dlala;
• ungacoshi isilwane ngokungafuni;
• nikeza izibiliboco zakho ozithandayo
• khombisa ukunakekela nokubekezela.

Kubalulekile ukuthi isilwane esifuywayo sizizwe sizolile futhi siphephile lapho sisekhaya. Lokhu kuzosiza ekwakheni ubudlelwano obufudumele nobunobunye emndenini. 

Bona futhi:

• Yini ikati elizimisele ukuyenza ukuze likunake?
• Ungaluqonda kanjani ulimi lwamakati futhi ukhulume nesilwane sakho
• Ingabe ikati liyayiqonda inkulumo yomuntu?