Ungakuthuthukisa kanjani ukubekezelela ukucindezeleka kwenja yakho

Abanikazi abaningi, njengoba befunde izindaba ezisabekayo ku-intanethi mayelana nokulimala kokucindezeleka okuncane kwezinja, bethuka futhi babuze imibuzo emibili: indlela yokuvikela isilwane sabo ekucindezelekeni kanye nendlela yokwandisa ukumelana nokucindezeleka kwezinja. Ake sikuthole.

Awukwazi ukuvikela inja yakho ekucindezelekeni. Ukucindezeleka yindlela umzimba osabela ngayo kunoma yiluphi ushintsho endaweni ezungezile. Noma yikuphi. Futhi isidumbu kuphela esingenayo ingcindezi. Nokho, ukucindezeleka kuhlukile. Kungaba yinzuzo (eustress) noma kube yingozi (ukucindezeleka). Kungenzeka yini ukwandisa ukumelana kwenja nokucindezeleka okuyingozi?

Yebo no cha.

Ingxenye yokumelana kwenja nokucindezeleka kungenxa yofuzo. Futhi uma inja inamahloni kusukela ekuzalweni, izoba, ezinye izinto zilingana, ibhekane nokucindezeleka kaningi futhi ihlupheke kakhulu. Asikwazi ukwenza lutho ngezakhi zofuzo, singahlela kuphela impilo yenja ngendlela yokuthi ihlupheke kancane futhi ikwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo kalula.

Kodwa kuningi okusemandleni ethu.

I-Socialization ifundisa inja ukuthi umhlaba ozungezile, ngokuyisisekelo, awesabisi njengoba kungase kubonakale. Futhi izinto eziningi ezikulo zinobungane noma ziwusizo noma zingathathi hlangothi. Kulokhu, inja inesizathu esincane sokuthola ukucindezeleka futhi ihlupheke ngemiphumela yako.

Enye indlela yokuthuthukisa ukubekezelela ukucindezeleka kwenja yakho ukudala ibhalansi efanele yokubikezela nokuhlukahluka empilweni yayo. Ngakho-ke inja ayihambisani nesithukuthezi, futhi ayikhuphuki udonga kusuka ezinxushunxushwini. Kodwa kokubili kuyimithombo yokucindezeleka.

Futhi singanikeza inja izinga elilungile lokuzivocavoca, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomqondo. Lokhu kuzodala izinga eliphezulu lokucindezeleka, okungukuthi, i-eustress, esiza "ukupompa" "imisipha" yokumelana nokucindezeleka. Futhi kwenza inja ivikeleke kakhulu emiphumeleni yokucindezeleka.

Uma ungeke ukwazi ukubhekana nalo msebenzi uwedwa, ungahlala ucela usizo kuchwepheshe osebenza ngezindlela zobuntu (mathupha noma ku-inthanethi).