Indlela yokuthulisa ikati elinolaka Indlela yokuthulisa ikati ngokuziphatha okunolaka

Abathandi abaningi bekati bavame ukuzibuza ukuthi bangathulisa kanjani ikati uma kwenzeka ulaka. Kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi ezimweni eziningi, intukuthelo emakati iwumkhiqizo wokwesaba, futhi ukuziphatha okunolaka kuwukubonakaliswa kokuzivikela kwesilwane. Uma ubeka ikati noma ikati esimweni esizomethusa, khona-ke isilwane sizothukuthela futhi sibonise ulaka.

Namuhla sizothola indlela yokuthulisa ikati elinolaka nokuthi ungasibona kanjani isizathu sokuziphatha okunjalo esilwaneni sakho ukuze izimo ezinjalo zincishiswe.

Indlela yokubona imbangela yentukuthelo ekati

Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ikati aliyona inja, okungamaphesenti ayikhulu isilwane esifuywayo. Emakati ushiye imizwelo engokwemvelo, ezibatshela ukuthi noma yini ingaba yingozi, ngisho nomuntu. Ngakho-ke, amakati angabonisa ukwesaba futhi athukuthele ezimweni ezinjalo:

• ingane yadonsa ikati ngomsila futhi isilwane, siqala ukuyihlanganisa nento engabangela ubuhlungu, ngakho-ke ibonisa ubutha kuyo;
• ikati elingavumelaniswa kahle neziko lizokwesaba konke okuzungezile, okuzokhonjiswa ngokubonakaliswa kolaka.

Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungalindela nini izenzo ezinonya ekatini, qaphela ulimi lomzimba. Okunye ukuthinta kubonisa ngokuqondile ukuthi ikati lakho selizokuhlasela wena noma izingane zakho nezihlobo. Qaphela ikakhulukazi uma ubona ukubonakaliswa okulandelayo:

• uboya bema ekugcineni;
• abafundi bakhule;
• ikati libheka wena ngqo noma umuntu ongase abe isisulu;
• noma ugwema ukuthintana kwamehlo;
• amadevu acindezelwe;
• izindlebe zekati zicindezelwe ekhanda;
• ukuma kwesilwane kugwegwile;
• ikati liyabhodla, lihayiza, liqala ukusineka.

Njalo lapho ikati lakho libonisa ulaka, cabanga ngesizathu ukuziphatha okunjalo esimweni samanje. Mhlawumbe uyesaba noma ngezenzo zakho, noma ukuba khona kwabantu angabazi endlini ababebonakala bemsola futhi isilwane sikholelwa ukuthi bangalimaza yena noma wena.

Ulaka oluvela othandweni

Funda ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokwesaba nentukuthelo kungabangelwa ngisho nokuphulula kwakho. Ngeke wazi lapho ikati ngeke ngenjabulo purr ekuphenduleni imivimbo, futhi lapho angathandi futhi ufuna phumula phezu kwakho. Uma ngesikhathi sokuphulula ubona ukuthi isilwane siba nolaka, isizathu singase sibe kanje:

• Ngakho ikati lifuna ukukhombisa ukuthi liye lanele;
• kusukela enjabulweni, ikati liqala ukulala, bese livuka ngokuzumayo futhi lingase lesabe imivimbo yakho;
• ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kuziphatha kujwayelekile kumakati angazange axhumane nohlobo lwawo noma okwakuwukuphela kwawo kudoti. Ungawaphindiseli, vele ume ngesikhathi.

Indlela yokuthulisa ikati

yehlisa ikati ngokukuhlukumeza okusebenzayo, ungakwenza ngezindlela ezingakulimazi:

• gqoka izingubo zokuzivikela futhi uthathe isilwane ezandleni zakho, masinyane usibophe ngengubo;
• Hlala unesifutho samanzi nawe ukuze ukwazi ukufutha amanzi lapho uya ngakhona isilwane uma kwenzeka sinolaka. Ngakho uyazivikela emiphumeleni engenzeka;
• ungasigconi noma usicasule isilwane uma ubona ulaka oluseduze noma ngemva komzamo wokuqala wokuhlasela.

Futhi, ukuvimbela ukuziphatha okubukhali kwesilwane, umuntu kufanele thatha izinyathelo ezilandelayo:

• buyela emuva ekati, kungase kudingeke uphume ekamelweni okungenani imizuzu engu-10 ukuze "lishise";
• uma imbangela yokuhlukunyezwa ingenye ikati noma isilwane, khona-ke kufanele ihlukaniswe komunye nomunye isikhathi esithile futhi yethulwe kancane kancane;
• hlala phansi futhi ungalibheki ikati emehlweni ngesikhathi sokucasuka, lokhu kuzokwandisa ukwesaba kwalo. Ungalala phansi. Ngakho-ke uzobonakala umfushane ekati futhi lokhu kuzomthulisa;
• ungamnaki ikati okwesikhashana ukuze aqonde ukuthi awufaki usongo kuye;
• yenzela ikati izindawo zokucasha - ngesinye isikhathi kuyasiza ekudambiseni ububi ukuze isilwane sihlale endaweni ephephile isikhashana. Uma ikati lesaba futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo akukho ndawo yokugijima, ukuhlukunyezwa kuzoqina kuphela;
• sondela ekati kancane futhi ngokucophelela, ugweme ukuthinta;
• noma umvumele eze kuwe ngokwakhe, ukuze ikati liqiniseke ukuthi uvulekile ukuxhumana futhi ungafuni ukumlimaza. Mvumele akuhogele, ahlikihle ikhanda lakhe, ukuze isilwane siqonde ngokushesha ukuthi awusabi njengoba kubonakala kuye;
• ondle ikati noma unikeze amanzi;
• ungaphendukeli esijezisweni, ngaphandle kwalokho ukuhlaselwa kolaka kuzoba njalo.

Uma imbangela yokuhlukunyezwa ubuhlungu

Kwezinye izimo, isizathu sokuziphatha okubukhali kwamakati ubuhlungu. Ngakho-ke, uma ngaphambi kwalokho isilwane sakho sasinothando futhi sinobungane, futhi ngokuzumayo saba nolaka, lokhu kungase kubonise ukuthi ugula ngokuthile. Ukuze uthole, yisa ikati lakho kudokotela wezilwane.

Ama-syndromes ajwayelekile obuhlungu abangela intukuthelo yilawa:

• ubuhlungu emazinyweni;
• ukushisa;
• ukuvuvukala;
• ekuseni;
• ukuhlukumezeka;
• ukwelula;
• izinkinga zezindlebe;
• izinkinga ngohlelo lokugaya ukudla.

Uma udokotela ephetha ngokuthi ikati alinazo izinkinga zempilo, khona-ke ungakwazi ukuthulisa ikati nge ukuthambisauma ezinye izindlela zehluleka.

Kwesinye isikhathi amakati akhombisa ulaka entweni ethize: abantu noma izinto. Ezimweni ezinjalo, udinga ukujwayela kancane kancane isilwane kulokhu futhi ngazo zonke izindlela zokwenza kucace ukuthi abangane bakho noma onodoli bezingane abafaki ingozi kuye. Khulisa kancane kancane ukuthintana kwekati nalowo muntu noma into, kodwa ungakwenzi kungazelelwe.

Amakati ahlukene aneziqu ezihlukene zokuhlalisana, ngakho-ke ukuze umuntu azivumelanise nendawo ethile, izinsuku ezimbalwa zizokwanela, futhi kumuntu, ngisho nonyaka ngeke kwanele.

Amacebo nezixwayiso eziwusizo

Ulaka oluvamile kanye nentukuthelo namakati kungacasulwa yizizathu ezihlukahlukene ongakwazi ukuziqagela khona lapho. Sikulethela amathiphu nezeluleko kulesi sihloko, okungase kukusize uveze imbangela yokuziphatha okungalungile kwesilwane sakho esifuywayo:

• ngezinye izikhathi ulaka luyehla ngemva kokuthenwa noma ukuvalwa inzalo kwezilwane. Uma ungahleleli ukuzalanisa esikhathini esizayo, cabanga ngakho;
• uma ikati lakho lisabela ngendlela engafanele ekati noma inja yomakhelwane, hlela nomakhelwane ukuze isikhathi sokuhamba kwabo singahambelani;
• intukuthelo nomuzwa wokwesaba ukunqoba ikati lapho ushintsha ifenisha, uhlela kabusha noma uhamba;
• uma ushiye futhi ushiye ikati ekunakekelweni komuntu, khona-ke, cishe, ukusabela kwakhe kokuqala ekubukeni kwakho kuyoba ubudlova;
• ngezinye izikhathi amakati akhuluphele kakhulu abonisa ukunganeliseki ngenxa yokuthi awakwazi ukuqeda amazeze. Konke kunqunywa ngokuvakashela udokotela wezilwane;
• ukuze amakati amabili endlini ayeke ukulwa, abeke izindawo zokudla kwawo ezindaweni ezahlukene zekamelo;
• amakati amaningi awajabuli ngesidingo sokuya ethreyini elilodwa nelinye ikati noma ikati. Bangafundiswa ukuya ethreyini efanayo, kodwa kuzoba lula kakhulu ukuthola eyodwa ngayinye.

Ngakho-ke, saqonda into eyodwa: awukwazi ukuphendula ngobudlova bekati, yonke into idinga ukuxazululwa ngokuthula,kucacele isilwane ukuthi akekho ofuna ukumcasula futhi kulomuzi wonke umuntu ujabule ngaye. Uma eqonda lokhu, khona-ke uzoshintsha unomphela isimo sengqondo kuwe kanye nezivakashi zakho ezesaba ukuza kuwe ngenxa yekati elibi noma ikati.