Ukukhathazeka ekatini: izimbangela nezimpawu

Uke walibona ikati lakho ligxuma liphezulu liphansi ngenxa yokwesaba, lihlekisa wonke umuntu? Kodwa ikati elinamahloni, elingaphumuli alihlekisi. Ukukhathazeka ngezilwane kungaba yinkinga enkulu uma kungalungiswanga. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ikati lakho licindezelekile futhi linovalo, funda lesi sihloko ukuze uthole ukuthi kwenzekani nokuthi ungasiza kanjani.

Izimbangela Zokukhathazeka Emakatini

babe nokukhathazeka lapho bezwa ingozi evela “emthonjeni ongaziwa noma ocatshangwayo, okuholela ekuphenduleni okujwayelekile komzimba ekwesabeni,” kuchaza i-PetMD. Ngamanye amazwi, ikati elikhathazekile lihlale licindezelekile futhi liyesaba ngaphandle kwesizathu esibonakalayo. Nokho, lokhu akusho ukuthi asikho nhlobo isizathu. Udinga nje ukuchitha isikhathi esithile uyifuna.

Ziningi izimbangela zokucindezeleka emakatini. Ukukhathazeka kungabangelwa ubuhlungu noma ukugula, ukuchayeka ebuthini kanye nezifo ezithinta isimiso sezinzwa. Izici ezingokwengqondo zihlanganisa izehlakalo ezibuhlungu, ukuntuleka kobudlelwane, kanye nesipiliyoni sokuhlukunyezwa nokunganakwa. Ukuguga kobuchopho nakho kungabangela ukukhathazeka, ikakhulukazi kumakati amadala ahlushwa izinkinga zenkumbulo noma ukuwohloka komqondo. Ubuhlungu obuhlangene emakati amadala bungase bube umthombo wokukhathazeka, obonakaliswe ngomzamo wokufihla noma wenqaba ukusebenzisa ibhokisi likadoti. Ezinye izimbangela zokukhathazeka ekati zihlanganisa ifenisha entsha nokuhlelwa kabusha, ukufika kwesilwane esisha noma ingane endlini, ngisho nekhaya elisha.

Enye yezinhlobo ezivame kakhulu zokukhathazeka ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana: ikati lakho liba novalo futhi licindezeleke lapho ushiya umugqa wokubuka noma umshiya yedwa ekhaya. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kumakati akhishwe emgwaqweni, anikezwe ikhaya elisha, noma adluliselwe kumnikazi kuya kumnikazi izikhathi eziningana, amanothi e-PetMD.

Amakati angaphinde athintwe yi-obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), ebonakala ngokudlulele, imisebenzi ephindaphindayo. Izimbangela ze-OCD emakati azaziwa ngokuqinisekile, futhi ezimweni eziningi lesi sifo sibonakala njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, okuthi, noma kunjalo, kungabangela ukucindezeleka, kusho abalobi be-portal ye-PetMD. Abanikazi bangase babhebhethekise i-OCD kuzilwane ezifuywayo bengazi ngokuzama ukuzehlisa noma ngokuzinaka ngesikhathi sokuziphatha okungafunwa. Kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ezinye izinhlobo zinezakhi zofuzo ezithinta ukuziphatha okuwuphawu lwe-obsessive-compulsive disorder. Lokhu kuziphatha kubonakala kakhulu ku-Siamese nakwezinye izinhlobo zase-Asia.

Ngakho-ke uzibona kanjani izimpawu zokukhathazeka ekatini?

Buka Ukuziphatha

Isilwane esifuywayo esingaphumuli kulula ukusibona. Ingosi ye-PetMD igqamisa izimpawu nezimpawu ezilandelayo zokukhathazeka ekatini:

• Ukuqhaqhazela.
• Ukwenqaba ukuxhumana kanye nesifiso sokucasha.
• Umsebenzi owehlisiwe.
• Ukulangazelela ukubaleka.
• Ukuziphatha okulimazayo nokunolaka.
• Uhudo.
• Ukwenqaba ukusebenzisa ithreyi.
• Amanxeba nokulimala kokukhothwa ngokweqile.

Ezinye izimpawu zihlanganisa ukuncipha kwesifiso sokudla, ukwehla kwesisindo somzimba, i-meowing ngokweqile, ukukhathala nokuyaluza, kuphawula ingosi ye-PetMD. I-OCD ingabonwa ngokudlulela, imisebenzi ephindaphindayo njengokudla, ukuncela noma ukuhlafuna izicubu, ukukhotha ngokweqile, ukukhala ngokuqhubekayo noma ukuhhewula, kanye nokuhamba njalo. Uma ukukhathazeka kwekati kubangelwa ukuhlukana, khona-ke ikati lizobuyela esimweni esijwayelekile lapho uvela, kodwa lingase liphinde likhathazeke uma lizwa ukuthi usuzohamba.

Ungasiza kanjani ikati elicindezelekile

Into ebaluleke kakhulu okudingeka ukwazi ukuze usize ikati elikhathazekile ukuthi akufanele umjezise noma umthethise ngokuziphatha kwakhe okungaphumuli. Lokhu kuyomane kubhebhethekise imibono yakhe engemihle nokwesaba futhi kwenze isimo sibe sibi nakakhulu. Umgomo wakho uwukusiza ukuba akhululeke futhi azizwe ephephile.

Ngokushesha nje lapho ubona ukuziphatha okungaphumuli esilwaneni sakho, hlela ukuvakashela udokotela wakho wezilwane ngokushesha ukuze uqinisekise ubukhona noma ukungabikho kwezifo noma ubuthi obubangela ukucindezeleka esilwaneni sakho. Amakati avame ukufihla ubuhlungu kubanikazi bawo, ngakho ukuthola inkinga ngeke kube lula futhi kungase kudinge ukuhlolwa kwegazi nokunye ukuhlolwa. Uma kuvela ukuthi inkinga ibangelwa ubuhlungu noma isifo, ukwelashwa okufanele kungase kube okwanele ukuze ubuyisele isilwane sakho esivamile.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uchwepheshe wezilwane angakwazi futhi ukubona imbangela yenkinga engokwengqondo, njenge-neurosis. Kulokhu, cishe uzokunikeza izincomo mayelana nenkambo yokwelashwa.

Ngaphezu kwemithi elwa nokukhathazeka, udokotela wakho wezilwane cishe uzoncoma umqeqeshi noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezilwane ukuze akusize ulolonge ukuziphatha okufunayo kwesilwane sakho esifuywayo futhi ulahle okungafunwa. Ukulolonga ukuziphatha okufunayo kuhilela ukuhlonza izici ezilesabayo ikati lakho kanye nokunciphisa ukuthambekela kwazo ngokuphindaphindiwe, ngokuxhumana okuphephile nalo, noma ukulisusa endaweni yesilwane. Ukulahla ukuziphatha okungafunwa kuhilela ukushintsha ukuziphatha okungafunwa futhi kube okufiselekayo, ngokwakhiwa kobudlelwane obuhle obuhambisana nokuziphatha okufunayo. Isibonelo, uma ikati lakho likhathazeka lapho usuzohamba, liqeqeshe ukuthi liyolala ngaleso sikhathi futhi ulivuze ngokuphatha noma ithoyizi eliyintandokazi uma lenza njengoba ucela. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzohlobanisa ukuhamba kwakho nesikhuthazo futhi afunde ukubhekana nokukhathazeka kwakhe. Umgomo oyinhloko wokuqeqesha nokubumba ukuziphatha okufunayo ukukhombisa ikati ukuthi iphephile futhi ingakwazi ukuphumula.

Ishiya inkinga inganakiwe

Ukukhathazeka ngeke kuzidlulele ngokwako futhi cishe kuzoya kubi kakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, nokuziphatha okungafunwa kuya ngokuya kugqama. Njengabantu, ukucindezeleka okungapheli kuthinta impilo yengqondo ezilwaneni. Ngokuchayeka okuqhubekayo, ukucindezeleka kucindezela isimiso sezinzwa futhi kwenza ikati libe sengozini enkulu yezifo, okubuye kwandise ukucindezeleka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, angase ahlakulele ukucindezeleka okukhulu, okuthi, kuhlanganiswe nokukhathazeka, kuzokwandisa izinkinga zokuziphatha. Ukuze ulondoloze impilo yekati kuphela, kodwa futhi nokuthula endlini, kuyadingeka ukuqala ukwelashwa ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.

Uma ubona ikati lakho likhala futhi libonisa ukukhathazeka, ungalahli ithemba. Ngenxa yothando lwakho, ukubekezela nokuzimisela ukusiza, unawo wonke amathuba okululama futhi abuyele empilweni enempilo ephelele.