Ingabe kufanele ngithole ikati lesibili?

Uma izinja ezidinga kakhulu ukuxhumana, indlela enjalo iphakamisa yona, khona-ke yini okufanele uyenze ngamakati? Ngokuvamile ziziphatha ngokuzimela futhi azibonisi noma yiziphi izimpawu zokucikeka lapho zihlala zodwa. Yiqiniso, akekho onganikeza impendulo eqondile embuzweni wokuthi kuwufanele yini ukuthola ikati lesibili.

Okokuqala, wonke umnikazi kufanele alinganise okuhle nokubi. Ngaphezu kwenjabulo ephindwe kabili, izilwane ezifuywayo ezimbili zizoletha isidingo esiphindwe kabili sokuhlanza nsuku zonke nokudla. Okwesibili, uma yenza abangane amakati behluleka, umnikazi kuyodingeka ukuba njalo umahluleli ezingxabanweni zabo, okuyinto banquma kancane ophucuzekile ukwedlula izinja efanayo. Okwesithathu, okuningi kuncike esimweni sesilwane esihlala endlini kakade. Uma isilwane sibonisa ulaka kulo lonke uhlobo lwaso, ngeke kulunge ngokuphelele ukuba nesilwane esifuywayo sesibili. Uma ikati linobungane futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, ngazo zonke izindlela okungenzeka licela ukuxhumana nomuntu, khona-ke ukubukeka kwesibili kungabhekwa njengosongo ekukhulumisaneni kwalo nomnikazi. Futhi lokho kuzodala umona. Umona uzodala ulaka, futhi ngeke usebenze ngaso leso sikhathi ukwenza ubungane nezilwane ezifuywayo. Kodwa okuphambene nakho kungenzeka: isilwane esithulile sizoncipha nakakhulu uma isimo sengqondo somuntu osanda kufika kanye nesidala singafani.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, amakati ayaziwa ngokubeka izimpi ezinobudlova kakhulu ukuze abuse endaweni, kuyilapho amakati ethembekile kakhulu, nakuba ngesikhathi se-estrus noma sokukhulelwa angabonisa nolaka olungavamile kubo.

Iphutha elikhulu, ngokusho kwabalimi bekati, ukuthatha ikati endlini lapho ikati elikhulile selihlala khona. Kule minyaka, abantu abasha abadlalayo babangela ukunganeliseki okubuhlungu: isilwane esidala sifuna ukuba sodwa futhi sifuna ukuba nomnikazi ngokuphelele wokunaka komnikazi. Uma, unekati elidala endlini, unquma ukuthola okwesibili, khona-ke okuthandayo kufanele kunikezwe ikati elidala, selivele lizolile futhi linemikhuba yalo. Yiqiniso, ubungane kusukela ekuqaleni kungase kungasebenzi.

Kunzima ukuqagela kusengaphambili ukuthi yiziphi izehlakalo ezizokwenzeka. Futhi, ungacabangi ukuthi isilwane sakho sinesithukuthezi sodwa ngenkathi unyamalala izinsuku emsebenzini. Kodwa, uma usanquma ukuthatha ikati lesibili, kufanelekile ukukhumbula imithetho embalwa ephoqelekile ezokusiza wenze ubungane nezilwane zakho zibe lula.

Okokuqala, isilwane sesibili kufanele sibe sincane kunesokuqala. Ukwenza ubungane namakati amabili amadala anemikhuba emisiwe kunzima kakhulu kunokuthola isilwane esifuywayo sithole ikati. Amakati akakakuqambi ukuziphatha kwezindawo, okuvamise ukubangela izingxabano eziningi. Ikati lizothatha ukubusa komuntu osekhulile kalula, futhi ikati lakho lizophatha ngokunganaki umfokazi njengengane encane, liqale ukufundisa nokunakekela, okuzosiza ukunciphisa ukushuba kwezinkanuko ezingaba khona. Nakuba, yiqiniso, inketho elula ukuqala ukuthatha amakati amabili kudoti ofanayo, ukujwayela kuyoba lula, kodwa bambalwa abantu abanquma ukuthatha isinyathelo esinjalo.

Okwesibili, akukho cala ungamnaki kakhulu umuntu osanda kufika kunomuntu omdala. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuzodala umhawu ngisho nasekatini elingahlosiwe nhlobo, futhi lezi zilwane zingabonisa umhawu ngezindlela ezahlukene, futhi umnikazi akunakwenzeka ukuthi athande okungenani eyodwa yezindlela zabo.

Okwesithathu, hlukanisa izilwane okungenani okokuqala. Cha, awudingi ukuwavala ngokukhethekile emakamelweni ahlukene. Wonke umuntu kufanele akwazi ukuthatha umhlalaphansi. Futhi, khumbula: ukulala ikati elidala liyinkomba yelinye elisha. Ngokufanelekile, izilwane ezifuywayo efulethini kufanele zibe nezindawo zazo ezikhethekile zokudla, ukudlala nokulala, futhi izindawo zokungcebeleka zingahlukaniswa kangcono ngomnyango.

Uma uletha omusha ekhaya, ungamshiya ku-carrier ukuze ajwayele iphunga elisha, futhi ikati lakho lingakwazi ukulihogela ngokucophelela futhi lijwayele osanda kufika. Imvamisa, kungenzeka ukwenza ubungane phakathi kwamakati amabili, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama okokuqala. Noma kunjalo, kuyenzeka ukuthi izilwane ezindala zijwayele isizungu kangangokuthi ngeke zamukele noma yikuphi okusha.

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