Indlela yokulumula inja ukuze igijimele abagibeli bamabhayisikili nabagijimi?

Abanye abanikazi bayesaba ukuhamba okulandelayo ngenxa yokuthi inja ijaha yonke into enyakazayo, kuhlanganise nabagijimayo. Noma bakhetha ukuhamba ekuseni kakhulu nakusihlwa, lapho kungekho muntu emgwaqeni. Futhi kunjalo, bahlala beqapha indawo ezungezile, njengokungathi bangahlangani nomsubathi ... Ngokuvamile, ukuphila nenja akubi injabulo. Kungani inja ijaha abagijimi futhi yini engenziwa ukuze ibalunyule?

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Kungani inja ijaha abagijimi?

Ukujaha abagijimi (kanye nanoma yiziphi izinto ezihambayo) kuwukuziphatha kwenja okuvamile. Phela ngokwemvelo bangabazingeli abasinda ngokulandela inyamazane. Enye into ukuthi ezimweni zempilo yanamuhla ukuziphatha okunjalo akukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi kuyamukeleka.

Ngezinye izikhathi abanikazi, ngokungazi, baqinisa lokhu kuziphatha kwenja. Isibonelo, baqala ukumncenga ngobumnene ukuba ehlise umoya, noma bazame ukumphazamisa ngokumphatha, futhi inja ibona lokhu njengesikhuthazo. Noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, baqala ukuthethisa ngokufutheka, futhi isilwane esifuywayo sigcwele ukuzethemba ukuthi umnikazi naye akamthandi lo mgijimi osolisayo, futhi bazomnqoba kanyekanye! Futhi-ke, inja izama nakakhulu.

Ngezinye izikhathi inja ayikwazi ukubhekana nezinga eliphakeme lokuvuka, futhi ukujaha abagijimi kungenye yezimpawu zalesi simo.

Indlela yokulumula inja ekuxosheni abagijimi?

Kungenzeka ukuqeqesha inja ukuthi iyeke ukujaha abagijimi futhi ngokuvamile ekujaheni izinto ezihambayo, kodwa kuzothatha umzamo nokuvumelana ukuze kugwenywe noma yikuphi ukuqiniswa kokuziphatha okungafunwa. Okufanele ngikwenze?

• Qeqesha inja yakho ukuthi ishaye ucingo, okungukuthi, ukulandela ngokuqinile futhi ngokushesha umyalo othi “Woza!” Kunenqwaba yemidlalo nokuzivocavoca, inhloso yakho ukukholisa inja ukuthi umyalo "Woza kimi!" - into engcono kakhulu engenzeka enja, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ungakwazi ukuhoxisa kalula isilwane esifuywayo esicasula kakhulu.
• Uma isizathu siyizinga eliphezulu lokuvusa inja, udinga ukusebenza nesimo sakhe. Izimiso zokuphumula zingasiza lapha, kanye nemidlalo eklanyelwe ukufundisa inja “ukuyigcina ezidladleni zayo.”
• Sebenza ngebanga. Isibonelo, kunendlela yokuqeqeshwa kokulungiswa kokuziphatha (i-BAT) eyakhiwe ngu-Grisha Stewart futhi ehloselwe ukufundisa inja ukuphendula ngokuzolile kunoma yisiphi isisusa. Ngokusebenzisa le nqubo, ufundisa inja yakho ukusebenzisana nezibangeli (okungukuthi, izinto “ezicupha” ukuziphatha kwenkinga) ngendlela eyamukelekayo emphakathini futhi zakhe ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha. Le nqubo nayo inhle ngoba ikhuthaza ukungezwani komzimba - okungukuthi, inciphisa ukuzwela kwenja ku-trigger.

Uma usebenza nenja ngokungaguquki nangekhono, ungamfundisa ukuthi aphendule ngokuthula kunoma yisiphi isikhuthazo futhi ayeke ukujaha abagijimi nezinye izinto ezihambayo.