Indlela yokuqeqesha inja futhi ujabule

Uma usondela ekukhulisweni kwenja ngendlela efanele, lokhu kuyinqubo emnandi kakhulu futhi ejabulisayo. Phela, okuhlangenwe nakho okungathandeki (kokubili inja nomnikazi) ekukhuliseni isilwane ngokuvamile kuhlotshaniswa neqiniso lokuthi umnikazi akazinaki izidingo zenja noma usebenzisa izindlela ezingenabuntu. 

Yebo, uma uthanda ukulwa, zonke izindlela zilungile, kodwa abanikazi abaningi basazithanda izinja zabo futhi abatholi lutho olujabulisayo ekulweni nazo. Ingabe ukukhulisa inja kumnandi? Yebo!

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Yini okufanele icatshangelwe lapho ukhulisa inja?

Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi inja yenza okuthile "okungalungile" hhayi ngenxa yokuthi ifuna ukukwenza "ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza", kodwa ngoba nje ingakachazwa ukuthi yini edingekayo kuye. Ngakho uyazama – ngokusemandleni akhe. Umsebenzi womnikazi uwukufundisa inja ukuziphatha okufunayo, kuyilapho enelisa izidingo zayo.

Kubalulekile ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi inja iphilile. Uma engazizwa kahle, yonke imizamo yakho iyoba yize.

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela izimpawu zokwesaba enjeni. Uma ethukile, akunakwenzeka ukumfundisa okuthile "okuwusizo" - okokuqala udinga ukusebenza ngokwesaba.

Isu Lokuqeqesha Izinja

Kukhona isu elikuvumela ukuthi ufundise inja yakho cishe noma yini futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ulungise ukuziphatha okungafunwa. Ake sithathe inkinga eyodwa njengesibonelo: inja ikhonkotha abantu emgwaqweni.

1. Qonda ugqozi lwenja. Ukwenza lokhu, kubalulekile ukumbheka futhi uqonde ulimi lomzimba. Ingabe ukukhonkotha abantu abangabazi emgwaqweni kuhlobene nokugqugquzela ukugwema?
2. Hlaziya ukuziphatha kwezinjaukuqonda indlela azizwa ngayo. Isibonelo, uma inja ibonisa ukwesaba, iqhutshwa ukugqugquzela ukugwema futhi ifuna ukuba ngakolunye uhlangothi lwezwe kusukela kulowo muntu osabekayo.
3. Yiziphi izinzuzo ezilethwa ukuziphatha kwenja? Uma ekhonkotha abantu angabazi, cishe abafanelekile - kusho ukuthi umgomo ufinyelelwe, ukuthintana kugwenywe.
4. Yini ebangela ukuziphatha okungafunwa? Uma inja ikhonkotha abantu, ingabe abantu abathile, noma abesifazane kuphela, noma amadoda, noma izingane, noma labo ababuka inja, noma labo abelulele izandla zabo ngakuyo?
5. Nquma ibangaongasebenza kukho. Isibonelo, inja isivele ibheke umuntu "omubi", kodwa ayikakhonkothi noma ingethuki.
6. Cabanga ngalokho inja eyifunayo Okwamanje. Ungamvuza kanjani ngokuziphatha okuhle? Kungaba ubumnandi, umdlalo, noma okunye okubalulekile kuye lapha namanje. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukukhipha iziqinisekiso ngesikhathi.
7. Phakamisa enye indlela. Cabanga ngokuthi ikuphi ukuziphatha okunganelisa kokubili isidingo senja futhi kukuvumele. Noma mhlawumbe kunengqondo ukusebenza ngesisusa (isibonelo, fundisa inja ukuthi “ithande” abantu).
8. Cabanga ngesu lokwenza: ungayifundisa kanjani inja yakho indlela entsha yokuziphatha usebenzisa izinyathelo ezincane, ukusuka kokulula kuye kokuyinkimbinkimbi.

Izindlela Eziyisisekelo Zokulungisa Ukuziphatha Kwezinja “Okubi”

Kunezindlela ezimbalwa ezikuvumela ukuthi ufundise inja yakho ukuziphatha "okuhle" esikhundleni sokuziphatha "okubi".

• Ukuphatha Ukuziphatha – uma sihlela indawo ezungezile ngendlela yokuthi ukuziphatha “okubi” kungaziphindi. Ngokwesibonelo, uma inja yeba etafuleni, sihlanza yonke into edliwayo lapho ishiywe inganakiwe.
• Ukufundisa ukuziphatha okungahambelani- lapho ukuziphatha "okubi" kushintshaniswa okunye okungahambelani nakho. Isibonelo, ufundisa inja yakho ukuthi ikubheke emehlweni lapho udlula abantu "ababi" - uma inja igxile kuwe, kuyoba nzima ukuthi ithuke.
• Ukungahlehlisi - ukujwayela kancane kancane ukuphendula ngokuzolile ku-stimulus ekhula ngamandla. Isibonelo, sifundisa inja ukuphumula, kuyilapho ibanga eliya kumuntu "omubi" liyancipha kancane kancane.
• I-counterconditioning yakudala - ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhle nabantu "ababi". Isibonelo, ungaphakela inja yakho ukudla okumnandi kakhulu kuphela uma uzijwayeza ukusondela kulaba bantu "abasabekayo", bese kuthi lapho bevela, inja ilindele ibhonasi kuwe - futhi ngubani ozokhonkotha emthonjeni wezinzwa ezimnandi?