Indlela yokufundisa inja endala ukuya kudokotela wezilwane ngomoya ophansi

Kwesinye isikhathi abanikazi bakhala ngokuthi inja iyesaba ukuya kudokotela wezilwane. Ikakhulukazi uma inja isikhulile futhi isivele yazi ukuthi ibuhlungu futhi iyesabeka emtholampilo wezilwane. Indlela yokufundisa inja endala ukuthi ihambe ngokuthula kudokotela wezilwane, ikakhulukazi uma le nja isivele inesipiliyoni esibi?

Okokuqala, kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi ukujwayela ukuvakasha ngokuthula emtholampilo wezilwane kuzodinga isikhathi esiningi nomzamo kumnikazi. Futhi kufanele akulungele. Kodwa akukho okungenzeki.

Isu le-counterconditioning lizosiza. Okulele eqinisweni lokuthi sishintsha ukusabela okungekuhle ngokomzwelo kolunye uhlobo lwesiqhumane sibe esiqondile. Sesivele sibhale ngalokhu ngokuningiliziwe, manje sizokhumbula kuphela ingqikithi.

Uthatha ukudla okumnandi kakhulu kwenja futhi uyiphakele uma uya emtholampilo wezilwane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, usebenza ezingeni lapho inja isivele ishubile, kodwa ayikaqali ukwethuka. Kancane kancane zuza ukuphumula futhi uthathe isinyathelo emuva.

Mhlawumbe ekuqaleni kuzodingeka ukuthi ulungise umgwaqo oya emtholampilo wezilwane ngaphandle kokungena kuwo. Bese ungena emnyango, uphathe futhi uphume ngokushesha. Njalo njalo.

Ikhono eliwusizo liyoba ikhono lenja yokuphumula esignali (isibonelo, emgqeni okhethekile). Ufundisa isilwane sakho lokhu ngokwehlukana, okokuqala ekhaya, bese uhamba emgwaqweni, bese udlulisela leli khono ezimweni ezinzima, njengokuvakashela udokotela wezilwane.

Kuzodingeka uye emtholampilo wezilwane izikhathi eziningi “ungenzi lutho” ukuze umuzwa ongemuhle “udlulelane” nalowo oqondile. Isibonelo, ngena, uzikale, uphathe isilwane sakho bese uhamba. Noma cela umlawuli kanye/noma udokotela wezilwane ukuthi aphathe inja ngokuthile okumnandi kakhulu.

Isimo sakho siqu naso sinendima ebalulekile. Phela, izinja zifunda kahle imizwelo yethu, futhi uma unovalo, khona-ke kunzima ukuba isilwane sihlale sizolile futhi sikhululekile.

Into esemqoka ukubekezela, ukwenza ngokungaguquki, ngokuhlelekile futhi ungaphoqeleli imicimbi. Futhi-ke konke kuzolunga kuwe kanye nenja.