Ukuthi ukusekelwa kwenja yakho oyithandayo kusiza kanjani ukuphulukisa

Uma uke walahlekelwa othandekayo, uyazi ukuthi kungakanani ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo okuvela enja yakho kungasiza. Amandla okuphulukisa ezinja yinto engasoze yalahlekelwa ukuhlobana noma ukuphuma esitayeleni. Bangakunikeza ukwanga okunothando, badambise isimo futhi bakunikeze umuzwa wokuzinza, okubaluleke kakhulu phakathi nezikhathi ezinzima kakhulu zokuphila kwakho.

Uma ushonelwa umuntu, impilo iyaqhubeka eduze kwakho, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi ungazizwa uthanda. Kunezinto okudingeka zenziwe noma kunjalo, futhi isilwane esifuywayo singaba isikhumbuzo esikhathalelayo saleyo mithwalo yemfanelo. Izinja azidingi nje ukuphakelwa futhi ziyiswe endlini yangasese; basadinga ukuvivinya umzimba njalo nokunaka kwakho.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, izinja ziyizilwane ezinothando kakhulu ezizwelayo ezidingweni zakho ezingokomzwelo futhi zikusiza ukuba ugcine impilo yengqondo. Bangasiza abantu ukuba babhekane nokukwanga nokunakwa, bakubuyisele ngemfudumalo nothando obanikeza lona nsuku zonke.

Ukwesekwa okungokomzwelo okuvela ezilwaneni kuwunkulunkulu uma ukudinga kakhulu. Nazi izindaba ezimbili mayelana nezinja zangempela ezisize abanikazi bazo ukuthi babhekane nokulahlekelwa kungazelelwe yilungu lomndeni.

ULeonora noJack

UJack wazalelwa uLeonora ngoSepthemba 2004, kodwa ngaleso sikhathi wayesengumdlwane ongaba namasonto ayisishiyagalombili ubudala.

“Ngemuva kokushonelwa umama ngoJanuwari 2014, kwaba nezinsuku lapho kwakubonakala kungenakwenzeka ukuvuka futhi, ngisho nokusho ukuthi, kungenangqondo. Kodwa uJack akazange akuvumele lokho ukuba kwenzeke, uthi. "Uncike kakhulu kimi nomyeni wami, ngoba udinga ukuhamba, ukudla, ukuphuza, futhi kufanele sidlale naye."

Futhi njengoba aba yimpumputhe ngo-2012, wayedinga ukunakwa kakhulu kunezinye izinja. Lokhu ngokuvamile kusho ukuthi bayamsiza ukuba ahambe endlini lapho kudingeka. Uvame ukuba mkhulu kukho konke, kodwa uma ecasukile noma engalaleli kakhulu, angabhajwa ekhoneni legumbi endlini yabo. ULeonora nomyeni wakhe abakwazi nje ukumdedela egcekeni ukuze enze imisebenzi yakhe yasekhaya, ngakho bayamkhipha izikhathi ezimbalwa ngosuku ukuze enze noma yini okudingeka ayenze.

Njengenja eqondisayo enkosini yayo, “UJack uthembele kithi njengamehlo akhe.”

Ngaphezu kokumnakekela nsuku zonke—phakathi nobusuku obuningi bokungalali obusasenzeka—uLeonora ulala phansi eduze kukaJack ngemva kokuba umyeni wakhe eselele, abeke ikhanda eduze kwakhe, afunde inoveli yothando emnandi, ephulula uboya bakhe. , futhi uyalinda. kuze kube umoya wakhe uyamthoba. “Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa zokuqala, sagonana njalo,” uyakhumbula, “kwaze kwaba yilapho sengikhathele ngokuphelele, ngemva kwalokho ngakhasa ngibuyela embhedeni ngazumeka.”

Usizi luyakhubaza futhi lukwenza ube nesizungu. UJack ungomunye wenjabulo elula. Uyajabula lapho abanikazi bakhe bebuyela ekhaya ngemva komsebenzi. Unyakazisa umsila ebonga lapho ephakelwa. Uhlangana nabo bobabili emnyango njalo uma befika ekhaya (cishe…usehambe kancane ngeminyaka yabo-15). Uvame ukulala nekhanda lakhe emathangeni ami lapho ngidweba noma ngifunda, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, uyangithanda ngaphandle kwemibandela.” Nakhu okuthola njengembuyiselo lapho unikeza inja yakho ukwesekwa ngokomzwelo. “Kube nobusuku obumbalwa lapho ngikhala, ngingcwatshwe eboyeni bakhe, engibutholile, obumunca kahle amanzi,” uyancokola.

“Kuyahlekisa ukuthi nginomyeni, umsebenzi kanye nomndeni ongidingayo,” uyakhumbula, “kodwa ngezinye izikhathi okuwukuphela kwento eyangisiza ukuba ngiqhubekele phambili kwakuyinja yami uJack.”

ULeonora uye wasizwa kakhulu ukwesekwa umndeni nabangane, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi emzamweni wokubhekana nokudabuka, ukuphika, ukukhathazeka noma usizi, akafuni ukukhuluma, ukuhlaziya noma ngisho nokucabanga ngakho. Ngokusho kwakhe, uJack, ngendlela yakhe, wamenza wazizwa ayekudinga, ngaphandle kokusikisela okuthile noma ukuzama ukulungisa noma yini. Kuyisibusiso nje.

“Ngibonga uNkulunkulu nsuku zonke ngoJack – ungisize kakhulu ukuthi ngidlule kule minyaka embalwa edlule.”

USamantha noHuckleberry

UHuckleberry uvele kwaSamantha ekuqaleni kukaJulayi 2015 futhi ngokushesha wathandana nawo wonke umuntu. “Umndeni womyeni wami uCorey weza ukuzobona ikhaya lethu elisha futhi wazane nomdlwane wethu. Wonke umuntu wamthanda ngokushesha, kuhlanganise noSean, umfowabo omncane kaCorey. Kwakumnandi kakhulu ukumbona edlala ngayo ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi ngiyithanda nje. Bekungokokugcina sindawonye,” usho kanje.

Ngo-August 4, 2015, uSean waba sengozini washona.

Into yokuqala u-Samantha ayenza kwaba ukugona okukhulu u-Huckleberry. "Wayengumdlwane onezinyanga ezine ubudala futhi wayeka ukunyakaza ezama ukukhululeka futhi wavele wangivumela ukuba ngimgone."

Lapho sebesendlini yabazali bakaCorey, ngemva kwawo wonke ukwanga okwamukelekile, wonke umuntu wayeshintshana ngokugona noma ukuphulula uHuckleberry. Futhi phakathi nesonto ababelapho, wayevumela abantu ukuba bambambe noma bamphulule noma bakhale naye.

“Wayezolile,” uyakhumbula. "Njengoba wayazi ukuthi yilokho wonke umuntu ayekudinga."

“Usenamandla, kodwa ngisho namanje, lapho ngidabukile futhi ngicabanga ngoSean, uvele azi ukuthi ngiyamdinga,” uyanezela. “Ngathi ngiqala ukukhala, uyasondela angivumele ngimgone. Ngikholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi hhayi kimina kuphela, kodwa nomndeni wakwaCorey, ubengumsindisi wempilo ngempela. Wonke umuntu owafika endlini yakhe wachitha imizuzu embalwa noHuckleberry, futhi ngicabanga ngempela ukuthi ngalezo zikhathi lapho bembambile, wayebanikeza induduzo ababeyidinga.

UCorey noSamantha sebeneminyaka eyishumi nambili bendawonye. Wazi uSean kusukela eneminyaka engu-10 ubudala futhi manje akazi ukuthi bekungaba yini kuye ngokomzwelo, ukube bekungengenxa yamandla okuphulukisa ezinja ezifana noHuckleberry, hhayi ngokusekelwa okungokomzwelo okungapheli nothando alunikeza umndeni wakhe. .

Uma ubhekene nokushonelwa empilweni yakho, yazi ukuthi isilwane sakho esifuywayo siyohlala sikhona ezikhathini ezinzima. Ayikho indlela ephelele yokubhekana nokulahlekelwa, kodwa khumbula ukuthi umngane wakho omncane onoboya ongcono kakhulu angaba ukusekelwa okukhulu ekwelapheni kwakho ngokomzwelo futhi akusize udlule kulesi sikhathi sosizi.