Ingabe amakati ayakuthanda ukushaywa, futhi angakwenza kanjani kahle?

Eminyakeni embalwa edlule, iphephabhuku i-Frontiers in Psychology liqinisekisile lokho abanikazi bezilwane ezifuywayo asebazi kakade: ukusebenzisana okuhle nezilwane kunciphisa ukucindezeleka kubantu. Lezi yizindaba ezinhle zempilo yomuntu nokuphila isikhathi eside, kodwa abanikazi bamakati bavame ukuzibuza ukuthi umuzwa uyahambisana yini. 

Ungakwazi ukufuya ikati? Indlela yokufuya ikati? Futhi kuthiwani uma ikati lizinwaya futhi liluma lapho uliphulula?

Amakati amaningi, naphezu kwenganekwane esabalele futhi eqhubekayo mayelana nokubanda kwawo, uthando oluvela kubanikazi bawo. Kungani amakati ethanda ukushaywa? Lapho umnikazi ephulula ikati noma elicosha, kuqinisa ubuhlobo babo.

Kuphi ukuphulula ikati futhi kanjani

Ukufuya ikati kungaba umsebenzi onzima kakhulu. Ungahumusha ngokungeyikho izimpawu zakhe bese ugcine usumthinta ngendlela engafanele noma endaweni angayithandi.

Ngokwesibonelo, ikati lizulazula phansi futhi liveze isisu salo. Ngakho ubonisa ukuthi uyamethemba umniniyo. Kodwa ukuphulula isisu sekati akuwona umqondo omuhle. Cishe uzophendula ngokuklwebha noma ngokuluma. Ngakho uthi akafuni ukushaywa i-stroke kuyona le ndawo njengamanje. Ikati lizokuvumela ukuthi ushaye isisu uma likuthanda, kuchaza uPetful, kodwa lokhu kufanele kwenziwe ngokucophelela futhi kuphela lapho ikati lizolile, likhululekile futhi likwethemba.

Ngo-2013, ucwaningo kuphephabhuku iPhysiology & Behavior lwahunyushwa ngokungeyikho njengobufakazi bokuthi ukufuya amakati kuyawabangela ingcindezi. UJohn Bradshaw, umqondisi we-Institute of Anthropoology eNyuvesi yaseBristol eNgilandi, uqinisekise i-National Geographic ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwamakati okuhlola kwakubangelwa izenzakalo ezimpilweni zawo, futhi hhayi ukuphulula. Phakathi nokuhlolwa, umehluko phakathi kokucindezeleka kwamakati ahlala yedwa kanye nokucindezeleka kwamakati ahlala emindenini enamakati amaningana kwafundwa. Ukushaywa unhlangothi kungaduduza isilwane sakho, ngakho ungesabi ukusiphulula.

Ikhanda, amahlombe, izihlathi kanye nekhala

Ngokuvamile, amakati athanda ukushaywa ekhanda, esilevini nasentanyeni. Abanye babo bayakujabulela ukuthinta umsila wabo, kodwa abanye bayahlehla futhi bezwa nobuhlungu. Ungajahi izinto, ubukele ngokucophelela ukusabela kwekati lapho uthinta futhi uhloniphe lokho akuthandayo.

Uma ufuna izindlela zokusebenzisa ikati lakho, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukulivumela ukuthi lihole. Okokuqala udinga ukuvumela ikati lihogele umunwe wenkomba bese ulithinta ngekhala lakhe. Uma ikati selilungele ukupetwa, lizocindezela umlomo walo esandleni bese liwukhomba ezindlebeni, esilevini, noma kwenye indawo lapho lifuna ukushaywa khona. Ukunyakaza okuhamba kancane kuzodala umoya okhululekile futhi ofudumele. Uma eqala ukukhanda ikhanda noma ukuphulula isihlathi, lokho kuwuphawu oluhle. Kungalokhu kuziphatha lapho izilwane ezifuywayo zishiya iphunga lezindlala zazo ze-buccal empahleni yazo eyintandokazi nakubanikazi.

Amakati amaningi athanda ukucasha kubanikazi bawo, futhi ngokuvamile ayakujabulela ukubanjwa uma ejwayela kancane kancane. Ngaphambi kokuba ugone ikati lakho uliqinise, kungcono uqale ngokulishaya kancane bese ulicosha ngobumnene. Kuphoqelekile ukubamba izidladla ezine zesilwane ukuze zingalengi. 

Uma ezizwa elondekile ezingalweni zakhe, uzokujabulela nakakhulu. Uma eqa ezama ukubaleka, kufanele umkhulule ngokucophelela bese uzama futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kuthatha izinyathelo ezincane ukufundisa isilwane sakho ukuthintana ngokuthinta, futhi ngezinye izikhathi umvuzo omnandi njengokubonga ngokungakrweyi izandla zakho. Ngendlela, noma yikuphi ubuhlobo, akufanele ushaye ikati ngokumelene noboya.

Yini enomthelela othandweni lwekati lokushaywa unhlangothi

Ezinye izinhlobo zamakati zamukela kakhulu ukuphulula nokugona kunezinye. Ikati le-Siamese, isibonelo, liwuhlobo oludlalayo nolujabulisayo oluzodinga ukunakwa okukhulu, njenge-Ragdoll enothando.

Ungethuki uma ikati lakho limelana nokuthintana ngokomzimba. Kungase kube yisici sobuntu bakhe noma ingxenye yendlela akhuliswe ngayo. Uma ikati lingakaze lihlangane nabantu lisemncane, lingase libe manqikanqika ukwamukela ukuphululwa. 

Angase adinge ukuncengwa okwengeziwe uma eyiswa emkhayeni njengomuntu omdala. Udinga ukusiza isilwane sakho esifuywayo ukuthi sijwayelane nokusebenzisa amanye amaqhinga angenhla. Kodwa kunezilwane ezivele zingathandi ukucoshwa: zincamela ukuba yikati elilele eduze kwazo, kunekati elilele emathangeni.

Ukwakha ukwethembana kuyinqubo ehamba kancane kunoma ibuphi ubudlelwano. Ukunikeza ikati uthando nothando, umnikazi uzovuzwa ngomngane ongcono kakhulu we-feline emhlabeni. Futhi mhlawumbe uzokuvumela ngisho nokunwaya isisu sakhe kanye.