Ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwenja endala

Uma sithola inja, isikhathi esiningi sakhela uthingo lwenkosazana emakhanda ethu nezithombe ezinhle zokuphila kwethu nayo. Nokho, iqiniso alifani namaphupho ethu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Yiqiniso, uma uqala ukuqeqeshwa nomdlwane wakho kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala, kungenzeka ukuthi uqinise futhi wenze ukuziphatha okufanele. 

Sizicasula kanjani izinja ekuziphatheni “okubi”?

Ngokuvamile thina ngokwethu, ngaphandle kokuqaphela, sicasula inja ukuba yenze ukuziphatha esingakuthandi kamuva futhi esifuna ukulwa nakho. Ufuna izibonelo ezithile?

 ISIBONELO 1. Ngaphambi kokuya esitolo noma emsebenzini, siya ukufuya inja, sikhale, siqinisekise: “Ungakhathazeki, nginamahora ambalwa ngokoqobo, ungabi nesithukuthezi. Ngizobuya, sizohamba ngezinyawo. Kungani wenza ubuso obudangele kangaka? Futhi sishiya ngaphansi kokubuka okunzima kwesilwane sethu esidabukisayo, futhi ngaphakathi kwenhliziyo iqhuma izinkulungwane zezingcezu ezincane. Ingabe kwenzeke into efana nale kuwe? 

Halala - wenza ukuziphatha okunzima kakhulu ukukulungisa ngezandla zakho: Ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana.

 ISIBONELO 2. Ubuyile emsebenzini, ushintsha izingubo ngokushesha ukuze uhambise inja yakho uhambo oluhlanzekile - phela isihlale ekhaya cishe amahora ayi-10. Futhi ngenkathi ushintsha izingubo, ufaka ihhanisi, ubopha intambo, uthi ngenjabulo: "Manje, manje, bekezela kancane, manje ake sihambe." Inja iqala phezulu, isuka ezidladleni iye kwesinye, ikubambe ngezandla noma ngentambo, ikhonkothe. “Hhayi-ke, manje, ngiyabona ukuthi usuvele ufuna, awume kancane! Manje ngizovele ngigqoke amabhuzu ami."

Ibhingo! Ngokunokwenzeka okukhulu, njengamanje uqopha inja okuthi, lapho ibuthana ngaphandle, ibambe izandla zakho, ikhonkothe ​​futhi igxumele kuwe, ikukhiphe emnyango, iwise omakhelwane bakho lapho usohambeni.

 ISIBONELO 3. Inja yakho yabona enye, yadonsa intambo yase iqala ukukhonkotha. Izimo ezinjalo zenzeka cishe nsuku zonke. Umnikazi uvame ukwenzani esimweni esinjalo? Ngokuvamile kuba yingoma epholile, epholile: “Santa, kungani ukhonkotha? Lokhu kunjalo ngempela okuhle inja, okuhle, niyabo? Asikho isidingo sokukhonkotha, yena okuhle!" Cishe zonke izinja zethu ziyalazi igama elithi “Kuhle” - “zinhle” phela, futhi sivame ukukusho lokhu kuzo lapho siziphulula, lapho sinikeza okuthile okumnandi. Inja yethu iyakhonkotha futhi izwa ngemuva kwayo: “Santa, blah blah blah blah blah blah, inja enhle, enhle. Blah blah blah kuhle". 

Inja yethu iqondani esimweni esinjalo? - kulungile! Wenze kahle, udinga ukukhonkotha kakhulu!

 ISIBONELO 4. Noma okuphambene nalokho: umnikazi unovalo ngenxa yokuziphatha okungcolile kwesilwane sakhe esifuywayo, uqala ukusithuka nokumthethisa. Inja ngalesi sikhathi igijimela kumphikisi, iyazi ukuthi umnikazi usemva kwayo, futhi "ndawonye singamandla!". Nomniniyo uyahayiza aphuthume ngemuva, okusho ukuthi naye uyayizonda lenja! “Ngibambeni abantu abangamashumi amane! Ngizoklebhula umlomo wami, ngikhiphe ama-blinker! ” 

Indlela yokulungisa ukuziphatha kwenja endala

Ngikholelwa ukuthi ukuqala okufika ngesikhathi kwamakilasi nomfundisi onekhono kuzosiza ukugwema ukwakheka kokuziphatha okungakhululekile. Umfundisi omuhle ujwayele ukuba nolwazi oluthe xaxa kunomnikazi wezinja ojwayelekile. Uyazi futhi ukuthi yimaphi ama-nuances okuziphatha okufanele anake ukuze angawathuthukisi. Uyawaqaphela amaphutha omnikazi, okungase kubangele ukuziphatha okuyinkinga esilwaneni esifuywayo. Futhi, yiqiniso, uyazi ukuthi angaxazulula kanjani ukuziphatha okuyinkinga osekubonakalisiwe. 

Uchwepheshe uhlaziya izimbangela zokuziphatha kwenkinga bese enikeza indlela, noma inhlanganisela yezindlela zokulungisa. 

Ukungcola endlini, isilwane noma ulaka lomuntu, ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukana, ukukhonkotha noma ukuhhewula njalo, ukwesaba iziqhumane noma ukuduma kwezulu, ukukhonkotha kwabagibeli bamabhayisikili noma abasubathi, ukungakwazi ukuhamba ngentambo exegayo - lezi yizizathu ezivame kakhulu zokuvakashela ukulungiswa kokuziphatha kwenja. uchwepheshe. 

Kodwa futhi baphendukela osizweni lomqeqeshi ukuxazulula ama-nuances amancane okuziphatha angakhululekile kakhulu kumnikazi: inja yeba ukudla etafuleni noma inxusa, ithatha ukudla emgwaqweni, ayilaleli umnikazi, ayifuni. ufuna ukugeza izidladla zakhe noma ukusika izinzipho zakhe, wesaba izinto ezintsha, ugibela embhedeni… 

Nginezindaba ezinhle: ngomsebenzi ofanele nocabangelayo (ngezinye izikhathi omude kakhulu) wokulungisa, noma yikuphi ukuziphatha kwenja kuyaboleka.

Akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuxazulula inkinga ngokuphelele futhi ekugcineni, kodwa kuhlale kungenzeka ukushelela, ukunciphisa. Futhi kubonakala kimi ukuthi omunye wemisebenzi yenkosi yethu maqondana nesilwane sethu esifuywayo ukumnika ithuba lokunqoba ukwesaba kwakhe, ulaka, ukungathembani. Phela, yeka ukuthi kuhle kanjani ukungalwi nomngane onemilenze emine kuyo yonke iminyaka yethu yokuphila eyi-10-15, kodwa ukuyijabulela.