Izindlela Eziyi-10 Zokwakha Ukuzethemba Komgibeli Ehhashi Lakho

Izindlela Eziyi-10 Zokwakha Ukuzethemba Komgibeli Ehhashi Lakho

Ukungethembani kuyinto esabalele kuzo zonke izinhlobo zobudlelwano, okuhlanganisa ubudlelwano behhashi nomuntu. Amahhashi afunda ukulindela, ukumelana, ukunganaki noma ukudelela emngceleni wolaka lapho engenakho ukumethemba umgibeli. Yiqiniso, ukungathembeki kwabo kungase kufihlwe ukubonakaliswa okunjengokwesaba, ukuzwela, i-phlegm, ukuqina, ukungacabangi, njll. Uhlu luqhubeka njalo. Kodwa akufanele sikhohlwe ukuthi silahlekelwa nokuzethemba ihhashi lethu. Ngeshwa, kithina, ukuphela kwendlela yokubuyisela ukuzethemba kwethu ehhashini ukufunda ukulethemba, hhayi ukubheka ihhashi elisha. Kunamahhashi ngokungangabazeki asisiza ukuba siphinde sizethembe, kodwa ngokuvamile imiphumela iba eyesikhashana. Kamuva, uma singakunaki ukwakha ukwethembana, izinkinga ezindala zizophinde zivuke. Angiyena umlandeli omkhulu wanoma iyiphi isistimu ethile eqinile, ngakho-ke ngizokwabelana nawe ngezindlela eziyishumi ongazisebenzisa njengoba usebenza ukuze wakhe kabusha ukwethembana, nganoma iyiphi indlela oyikhethayo.

1. Isibopho somuntu siqu

Kulula kakhulu ukusola ihhashi elithulile: ukulivuza nganoma yimaphi ama-epithets, ukulenga amalebula. Ngakho ususa umthwalo emahlombe akho uye kuye. Kukangaki uzwile kwabanye abagibeli, futhi kuwe, ukuthi ihhashi "livilapha", "inkani", "amahloni", "kunzima", njll.? Ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho uveza ihhashi lakho ngandlela thile, uzikhulula ngokushesha futhi ugcizelele iqiniso lokuthi awudlali noma iyiphi indima ekuxazululeni izinkinga ohlangabezana nazo. “Ngeke ngenze…ngoba ihhashi lami…”. Zama ukunikeza ihhashi lakho igama elithandekayo, ulichaze ngendlela ongathanda libe ngayo. Kunzima ngempela ukufuya ihhashi uma uthukuthele. Kodwa kuzokusiza ukubuyisela ukucabanga kwakho. Ukuze ususe umthwalo wemfanelo ehhashini emehlweni akho. Kuyiqhinga lezengqondo elisebenzayo. Ngakho-ke, uzoqala ukufuna inkinga ngaphandle kwehhashi.

2. Ukuqaphela ubuthakathaka bakho

Njengamahhashi ethu, sonke sinobuthakathaka - ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo noma ngokomzwelo. Ngisho nabagibeli abaphezulu abaphumelelayo banobuthakathaka. Kodwa azibonakali kumbukeli. Uma sizama ukunganaki noma ukunganaki ubuthakathaka bethu, sibulala ithuba lethu lokugcina lokubulungisa. Dala ibhulokhi phakathi kwethu nehhashi. Ihhashi lizwa konke lokhu kushiyeka futhi ngezinye izikhathi, njengesibuko, libonakalisa kithi. Singase sibe nenkinga yokungena ku-trot, noma asithandi nje ukusebenza ngaleyo ndlela futhi sizibuze ukuthi kungani ihhashi lethu lingathandi ukuntweza.

Ungasebenza ebuthakathakeni bakho ngesikhathi esifanayo nakumongo ngehhashi lakho. Thatha ishidi lephepha nepeni, udwebe amakholomu amabili, eyodwa eyakho neyodwa yehhashi. Manje qala ukuklelisa ubuthakathaka ocabanga ukuthi ihhashi lakho linabo. Lokhu kungaba ukuthuthukiswa kohlangothi olulodwa lwemisipha (ihhashi elihlangothini olulodwa), ukugcizelela ekubambeni, njll. Ukushiyeka kwengqondo kungase kuhilele ukusabela kancane kumlayezo noma, ngokuphambene, ngokuthatheka ngokweqile. Ubuthakathaka bomzwelo bungachazwa, isibonelo, “njengokwesaba ukuba wedwa endaweni yokubeka ihhashi” noma “uvalo ekuthuthweni kwehhashi”. Bese udlula ohlwini futhi uthole ubuthakathaka obufanayo kuwena. “Ukwesaba ukuba wedwa endaweni yokuphuzela utshwala” kungase kuhambisane nawe “nokwesaba ukuba wedwa enkundleni, ungenaye umqeqeshi.” Thembeka kuwe ngokwakho. Vula ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngokuqonda izinkinga zehhashi lakho nezakho, ningakha ukwethembana njengoba niqala ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga ndawonye.

3. Buyekeza ubudlelwano bakho

Ngezinye izikhathi kufika iphuzu ezimpilweni zethu lapho siyeka ukuqiniseka ukuthi ubuhlobo buhle ngempela yini. Ukuqonda kuvela ukuthi kukhona osisebenzisayo, othile usidinga kuphela lapho ephatheke kabi, othile eqhutshwa izisusa zobugovu, othile. ezama ukusikhohlisa. Kungenzeka okufanayo nasebudlelwaneni bethu nehhashi. Cabanga ngezizathu ezikuholela ehhashini.

Ingabe unomuzwa wesibopho, ingabe uziphoqa ukuya ehhashini, isitimela, iqhaza imincintiswano. Ungathanda ukushintsha okuthile? Ukhathele? Kwesinye isikhathi abagibeli bafika esiphethweni esidabukisayo sokuthi ukugibela amahhashi kusho into ehluke ngokuphelele kubo kunaseminyakeni embalwa edlule. Futhi mhlawumbe kufanele uyeke amakilasi, uthathe ikhefu noma ushintshe ubuchwepheshe bakho. Lolu hlobo lokusutha alwakhi ukuzethemba kwakho ehhashini.

4. Dala Imingcele Enempilo

Uzizwa kanjani ngabantu abathi, ekusebenzelaneni nawe, bangaboni imingcele yendawo yakho yomuntu siqu? Ingabe uyabethemba ngaso leso sikhathi futhi ubavumele basondele noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, bakhe udonga? Abaningi bakhetha ukuxhumana nabantu abanamathela emingceleni yokukhulumisana. Uma ihhashi elincane lingaqeqeshwanga ngendlela okufanele liziphathe ngayo kumuntu, kuzoba nzima kakhulu ukwakha ukwethembana nalo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uzofaka indawo yakho yomuntu siqu noma uyathanda noma awuthandi. Uma uhlehlisa isikhathi eside ukufundisa ihhashi lakho izisekelo zobudlelwano babantu, kuzoba nzima kakhulu kuwe kamuva. Kodwa lolu uhlamvu lwemali olunezinhlangothi ezimbili. Njengoba uqeqesha ihhashi lakho ukuba lihloniphe imingcele yakho, khumbula ukuthi nawe kuzodingeka ulihloniphe. Indlela yokuhlonipha imingcele yehhashi? Uma ihhashi, isibonelo, lidla noma liphumule, ungalihlukumezi, liyeke. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi uma udinga ukubamba ihhashi, kufanele ubekezelele imigilingwane yakhe. Akufanele akuvimbele ukuthi umbeke i-halter kuye, ubaleke endaweni yokudayisa.

5. Ukuvumelana nokuvumelana

Ukunikeza isifaniso ebuhlotsheni babantu: sikuthola kunzima ukuxhumana nabantu esingabaqondi ngokombono wethu, abangaguquki futhi bashintsha njalo umbono wabo. Kunzima futhi ngathi ukubona nokuqonda abantu abavela ezimpilweni zethu izinsuku ezimbalwa bese benyamalala isigamu sonyaka. Umgibeli angase futhi angahambisani nehhashi lakhe. Angase aziphathe ngokungaguquki, enikeza imiyalo engqubuzanayo. Veza kanye ngeviki futhi ufune izinto ezihlukile isikhathi ngasinye. Kuqeda ukwethembana. Uzothembela ihhashi, wazi ukusabela kwakhe kulokhu noma leso senzo. Kodwa ukukhulisa kanjani ukusabela okunjalo uma ushintsha uhlelo lokuxhumana njalo?

6. Usizo oluvela kubagibeli abanolwazi

Kunezikhathi lapho ukuzizwisa kwethu kuba okunganele. Enqubweni yokwakha ukwethembana nehhashi lethu, lokhu kungasho ukwedlula umbono wethu omncane wenkinga. Ngakho-ke, kufiseleka kakhulu ukucela usizo kubagibeli abanolwazi, abaqeqeshi. Isithombe singacaca kakhulu.

7. Ukusebenza nabantu abanomqondo ofanayo

Uma abagibeli abakuzungezile enkundleni benolaka, bememeza, beshaya ngesiswebhu, ngeke ukwazi ukusebenza ngokuzethemba. Khetha isikhathi lapho abagibeli abanesitayela sokugibela esikhululeke kakhudlwana begibela enkundleni. Lokhu kuzokubeka esimweni sengqondo esihle futhi kusize ukugcina ihhashi lakho lisendleleni. Buka izitebele, khetha inkampani yakho.

8. Isizathu sokungabaza

Ukuthembana kuyinto entekenteke kakhulu. Noma yikuphi ukungabaza kungakwephula. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungathanda ukuqiniseka ukuthi uma wenza iphutha, ihhashi lizokuqonda kahle. Ungathembela kuphela ihhashi elikwethembayo, ngisho noma wenze iphutha. Uma, ngenkathi uhlezi esihlalweni, uswayiphele unyawo lwakho ku-croup ngephutha noma ulahlekelwe ibhalansi yakho futhi ungahlali esikalini okokuqala, ihhashi akufanele lithuke. Kwesinye isikhathi kuhle ukuthi udale izimo ezinje ngamabomu ukuze ihhashi lakho lijwayele futhi lazi ukuthi abukho ubungozi. Futhi niyokwazi ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, uyobe uphephile.

9. Isijeziso ngamaphutha enziwe noma ukushintsha umsebenzi?

Ngokuvamile, lapho silibonile iphutha, asifuni othile ozosijezisa ngalo. Kodwa ngokuvamile siyalijezisa ihhashi ngaphandle kokuba nesikhathi sokuqonda isimo. Ihhashi alizange lingene emgodleni - i-whip-leg. Kodwa mhlawumbe ukhathele? Noma unesizungu? Qonda! Landela ukuqhubeka kwakho ukujima. Qonda ukuthi ihhashi lizama ukukutshela ini. Uma ugijima ku-cavaletti imizuzu engu-20 futhi ihhashi liqala ukuwashaya, mhlawumbe kungcono ukushintsha umsebenzi, sebenzisa isibalo sesishiyagalombili. Ukujezisa okungenangqondo ngeke kusithuthukise isimo, kodwa kuzoqeda ukwethembana kwenu.

10. Okuncane = ngaphezulu

Lapho umuntu ekhuluma kancane, amazwi akhe abaluleke kakhulu. Ukhuluma ephuzwini futhi edingekayo kuphela. Qiniseka ukuthi zonke izenzo ozenzayo zinenhloso. Ungagcwalisi ukugibela kwakho ngengxoxo engadingekile. Lalela umqeqeshi, uthule. Uma udinga ukutshela ihhashi lakho okuthile usebenzisa umyalo wezwi, ngokungangabazeki uzolalela. Okuncane kungaphezulu, futhi ukubaluleka kwakho okunamathisela kusignali ngayinye, igama, ihhashi lakho liyoba nethemba ngokwengeziwe ezenzweni zakho.

Ngethemba ukuthi lawa macebiso azokusiza ukuthi wakhe ukwethembana nesilwane sakho esifuywayo.

U-Erica Franz (izinto zokuqala); ukuhunyushwa nguValeria Smirnova